NOT TO SOUND LIKE A SMART A** BUT I NEED "LIVE AND LET LIVE" TO HELP ME EVERY DAY
i am glad you feel the same about the board...WE will have to tell Phil not to go on any more vacations. lol !!!!!!! Didn't want to be rude or anything but i thought a helpful nudge was okay.
well i had a tough day. and i love the distraction the board provides me when i am trying to get out of my head. well hope to keep hearing from you, thanks Gammy
Okay, Ellen....I'm not sure what I said but the reason I mentioned H.A.L.T. was because last night my recovering alcoholic husband came by at 10 pm to visit...we are separated. Well, I had come in from church and I was feeling lonley ,so I called a friend ,long distance and I cut that call short when he came in.Then our daughter called, long distance, my husband was trying to talk to me ,as was my daughter. Well, I couldn't understand either one of them, and I became frustrated. I had been lonley and now there was too much going on in my world at once. My husband was tired and hungry, sooooooo next ,both of us became angry, not a good thing to have happen with us. So I said I'm leaveing to go back to my Mom's who I take care of, walked out the door. What a wonderful way to end my day.
When I first heard H.A.L.T. in AA , I had to think about it for awhile, but it does make complete sense to me. If I get out of balance in any of these areas I'm an accident waiting to happen, so now I recognize what is going on and try to fix it , eat, deal with a situation,or take a walk, call a friend or my sponsor, and most important , go to bed when I'm tired, even just taking a short cat nap helps.
I'm sorry if you misunderstood why I brought up this topic, it was just because I had realized that is exactly what happened last night.Today was not much better as my husband is being a jerk, but because of the program I realize I have options and I can choose to "Live and Let Live" and remove myself from the line of fire.
Sometimes my uplink does not function ( in more ways than one ) so I'm not always in here. At the risk of repeating myself for the "manyth" time, when I find myself in that hellish place, h, a l or t, I reflect on the basics. Can I see, walk hear, etc. I suppose that it comes out of some of my former rush hour commutes just outside of Manhattan, where I'd have time to look around while in one of the world's biggest "parking lot" (except for China!) of traffic. Remember I'm now in a teeny tiny remote community!
I'd see a woman with her seeing eye dog waiting for her bus to get to work. I'd see women rolling themselves into the YWCA to go for a swim, in their own wheel chairs - not motorized. I's be stuck in front of them long enough to say good morning to them - and have them return the call. I always though of these moments as H.P's postcards.
A very warm Friday gratitude of hello to all of you, May you have a wonder-full day.