Gossip barbed with our anger, a polite form of murder by character assassination, has its satisfactions for us, too. Here we are not trying to help those we criticize; we are trying to proclaim our own righteousness. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 67
Sometimes I dont realize that I gossiped about someone until the end of the day, when I take an inventory of the days activities, and then, my gossiping appears like a blemish in my beautiful day. How could I have said something like that? Gossip shows its ugly head during a coffee break or lunch with business associates, or I may gossip during the evening, when Im tired from the days activities, and feel justified in bolstering my ego at the expense of someone else. Character defects like gossip sneak into my life when I am not making a constant effort to work the Twelve Steps of recovery. I need to remind myself that my uniqueness is the blessing of my being, and that applies equally to everyone who crosses my path in lifes journey. Today the only inventory I need to take is my own. Ill leave judgment of others to the Final JudgeDivine Providence.
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I get sucked into gossip and negative stuff like that so easily. I always feel "less than" for doing it.
I also sometimes wonder if I suffer from some lesser form of Tourettes Syndrome. I hate when I say something and then immediately regret it, wondering if it came out as hurtful or rude.
Nearly every time I have gone back and apologized for something I've said, the person has told me that it wasn't a big deal and they didn't interpret it like I imagined they did. Still I've always felt better for taking care of my business.
Great reminder especially at the work place. Its easy to get on board with every one else without even realizing it!!!
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