Hi All, I am remodeling my bedroom and gutted it out and took out the closet to expand the room and I will get an amouir for my clothes that I will be able to move if I want to change the room around. It is so much bigger and I got white paint that is very white instead of the egg shell white.
My son helped me to tear out the window sill and the carpet along with the closet so that was nice! I tore out the door and will replace that also and the frame on that with a pine door and pine for the new window. And I went and ordered my carpet and backing to it, very plush!
I spackled and will sand today and prime paint. And hopefully get it painted. I have a nice $2000 bed but I am giving it to my middle son. I want to rid myself of all the memories of my ex and it really helped me yesterday to tear that room all out.
I am glad I will have an amouir because he left so many time leaving the closet empty and it was so painful so many times. It was not healthy for me to sleep in that room with all the memories of pain.
I feel a bit depressed and sad but I slept so much better on the couch and that helped me to see how much I need to get rid of the bed and the "old" room. The weather is beautiful and all but I am downright not feeling good.
I have to regroup and talk to my mentor today. I will meet later with my support people also. God bless Rosie
I think it's great that your starting such a hugh project and in the meantime bonding with your son. It is hard to let go of someone when there are so many memories in your room. Some days are just harder than others. I too can have bad days about my ex. I talk it out with a friend and it seems to help, but it hurts at the time.
I went on a date last weekend, it turned out to be a joke. The guy told me he was fired from 25 different jobs. That was enough for me hello red flag. Anyway we went to a festival that my ex took me to the past 2 years. They have it once every summer. It made me miss him more, I guess I set myself up without realizing it. When i got home, i just wanted to cry that my ex couldn't get clean and sober so that we could be together. My will obviously not Gods.
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Hi Sharon, I went on a date about 3 months ago or so and I realized it made me miss my ex more so that was that. I saw on the TV about breakups and they say to take time to get over the ex before dating because it will interfere with healing and does make a person miss the ex more. Especially if the person is not so great.
But I feel no one is even if they are the best person on earth because we are still emotionally tied to our exs.
I see so many people go into rebounds and I never could figure that out. Because I always missed my ex when I had got divorced. And then I had some nice boyfriends here and there but even to this day after almost 29 yrs of that breakup I miss him.
I worked all day and got the prime coat on and the tacks up from the floor that held the old carpet and I also had sanded the places I spackled. Great to have it done and now I got to paint with "real" paint.
My oldest son is helping me to get my new carpet tomorrow and some other odds and ends. So busy day tomorrow. But a good one to be with my sons.
I know how that is with your ex Sharon. Hang in and hopefully it will get better. Very painful
Rosie, Good job keep it up. I went out with a friend tonight, we went shopping. Of course I started talking about my ex some. I had to remind myself that who ever he is with she is getting more of the same. It's 1100 pm by now he is pretty gone between the drinking and smoking. He starts right after he gets off of work which is about 400 pm. Who knows it progressive he might start earlier by now. All I can do is let him go and pray for the still sick and suffering.
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Thanks for the post. I needed to hear it. I went out with a guy from my HG, we saw an awesome play & had a good time, but all the while I was wishing I was doing this with My John! It's only been about 6 weeks since I ended things with him, guess I thought hanging out with someone else might make it easier. NOPE! Bad advice I gave myself!
So Girlies, I think it's time for all of us to stop living in the problem and start living in the solution. I"ve come to realize that hashing and rehashing this only keeps it fresh for me. I'm sooooo ready for it to wilt and die!
(((hugs)))
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Hi Doll, I know how you want it to wilt and die but it does not happen so easy. I wish it would......
It has been almost six months and no go. It is still painful and as fresh as a daisy for me over him. It will be over when it is over. We cannot control that even if Brad Pitt, George Clooney or any man who is the best deal walking came into our lives.
We have got our emotions and life tied to these guys and it is going to be untied when it is going to be untied.
We can help the process and feel better but we cannot control this. We have to leave it to a higher power. God bless Rosie
gday rosie even though painting may be different over seas. the easiest way to paint a room is to brush the wall down with a broom 2, sand the walls down with a fine sandpaper, 3, paint a sealer with desired tint colour straight over the top of the old paint, or unpainted wall, then when its dry you can see where the patching needs to go. treat in the usual way then 2 coats of the top coat and your done. spackle adheres better to a coat of paint than old paint. cheers from an ex master painter, peter.
Hi Peter, Thank you for the tip. I got one more coat to do and will get to it today. I got my carpet yesterday and molding and pine wood for the window and ordered my new door yesterday.
So this week I hope to have it all done and ready to decorate. It is very cool here today after being very warm. But it is good weather to paint. God bless you and thank you again. Rosie
