We never have to guess what they're really thinking or feeling, because they're honest about their thoughts and openly express their feelings.
We never have to wonder if they're with us because they want to be, or if they're there out of guilt and obligation.
When they do something for us, we don't have to worry whether they'll end up resenting us because direct people generally do things that please themselves.
We don't have to fuss about the status of our relationship because if we ask, they'll tell us.
We don't have to worry if they're angry because they deal openly with their anger and resolve it quickly.
We don't have to ponder whether they are talking about us behind our backs because if they have something to say, it will be said to us directly.
We don't have to wonder if we can rely on them because direct people are trustworthy.
Wouldn't it be nice if we were all direct?
Today, I will let go of my notions that it is somehow good or desirable to be indirect. Instead, I will strive for honesty, directness, and clarity in my communication. I will let directness in my relationships begin with me.
From The Language of Letting Go
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Wow! Thanks, Qx My fear of being wrong or forcing myself upon others usually gets in the way of this one. That's not to say that I don't put myself upon others in other ways but if I'm being honest & direct at least it gives other people the opportunity to say no, deny, choose opposite of or disagree with whatever it is I'm putting forward. Also, I have to remember that I am allowed to make mistakes &/or simply be an individual just as we all are. I don't have to be afraid of rejection & I do like direct people too. Their self permission can be a good inspiration & example to me. I was over the top & willfully loud, etc when I was younger so was repeatedly told to calm down, shut up or chill out. I have changed & I think I still have these negative voices in my head even though I am learning & changing into someone more considerate, sharing & can be direct. I can let go of those voices & still grow in new ways. Thanks to this program. Thanks to others learning from & following theirs. You all help me, Daniella x
-- Edited by Sobrietyspell at 18:59, 2008-08-12
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