Hi Michelle,

welcome to the board. This is a great question for the alanon board or meeting. Generally speaking, we can't change anyone and really must accept them just as they are. If that's unacceptable then we need to vote with our feet (leave). You, of all people, being in this program should know how hard it is to change even when we Want to change. There is zero chance of trying to change someone else. As far as being attracted to addicts, that's natural for us even in recovery. Coda has a lot of answers for those questions.

The thing that I'd be concerned about (and I dated a girl in early recovery that was taking pain pills) is the detrimental affect it's going to have on my program. I know that I'm going to be influenced by the people that I hang out with. That's how I got into this mess to begin with.

Dean

chickimick wrote:

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 he is a prescription drug user, like a doctor prescribes xanx regularly, he takes them every day not over the dose prescribed. 

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Welcome to MIP ~


I have a very close 'normal' (not an addict/alkie) friend who takes Xanax for severe panic attacks. Before getting on them the attacks were debilitating. Now, she's able to live a productive life.

If he is under a doctors care and only takes them as prescribed, then where's the problem? I must have missed something.

The BB tells us to seek other outside help if it's needed.


Glad you're here. Hope you'll keep coming
~Jen