But it is from our twisted relations with family, friends, and society at large that many of us have suffered the most. We have been especially stupid and stubborn about them. The primary fact that we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with another human being. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 53
Can these words apply to me, am I still unable to form a true partnership with another human being? What a terrible handicap that would be for me to carry into my sober life! In my sobriety I will meditate and pray to discover how I may be a trusted friend and companion.
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Progress not perfection.. & Practice makes Progress!
Yeah, it is. The only way I can hope to participate in healthy happy loving relationships is to embrace the simple beauty of acceptance, forgiveness and love for myself, rather than seek and expect someone else to provide 'happiness'....no human can give me that, but I know that in the past, and probably still now, I have expected it to be on tap, and if I wasn't happy, this way of thinking allowed me to blame others, rather than seek the true cause of my unhappiness. It is scary to be prepared to not chase love, but to allow it to come when I am ready and when God is ready to put the right person in my life, but I know that is what I should do. (should is not always what I do though)
wow!! This puts it on ME quite nicely. It is so easy to get caught up in whether or not SOMEONE ELSE is trustworthy, etc..... what about me? Am I seeking to be a healing person, an honest person, a trustworthy person? I have to keep my focus on me, not on the other guy. Liked this post. Thanks, Doll.
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~Your Higher Power has not given you a longing to do that which you have no ability to do.
"The primary fact that we fail to recognize is our total inability to form a true partnership with another human being."
People often wonder how homeless street people got there. The fact is that many of these people have had great proffessional careers with college degrees and you'd never know it by looking at them. Most have families that care but don't want any part of them. I was a motorcycle courier in DC in the early 80's and these street people, that I saw every day for 2.5 years, where older men that slept on sidewalk grates absorbing the heat from the subway ventilation shafts. Completely anti-social in that they would not communicate with anyone and generally ignored all the hustle bustle of the business folks that rushed by. These weren't the types with there hand out. They were far too gone for that. They ate out of garbage cans and accepted unsolicited funds. Many died on cold nights because they refused to go to the city shelters, so that they didn't have to be bothered with talking to anyone.
But for the grace of God go all of us. It's waiting for us out there.
