We go back and back and back...through the layers of fear, shame, rage, hurt, and negative incantations until we discover the exuberant, unencumbered, delightful, and lovable child that was, and still is, in us. -- Beyond Codependency
You are lovable. Yes, you.
Just because people haven't been there for you, just because certain people haven't been able to show love for you in ways that worked, just because relationships have failed or gone sour does not mean that you're unlovable.
You've had lessons to learn. Sometimes, those lessons have hurt.
Let go of the pain. Open your heart to love. You are lovable. You are loved.
Today, I will tell myself I'm lovable. I will do this until I believe it.
From The Language of Letting Go
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Hate to admit it but I am one of those people that needs to have positive reinforcement from others. Getting WAY better at it and am learning to love myself!
Doing my fourth step and I think that is probably my biggest character defect! People pleaser and needing praise or attention from others to feel worthy! Yuck!
Today I was all full of myself because I got some really great compliments at work! A patients family wrote me a personal letter thanking me for the care I gave them and another patient told me I was his favorite nurse! Just by writing this I feel like Im boasting! But I felt soooo good getting that positive pump! It made me feel like the work I was doing was special and worth it!
So, dont know if their affirmations made me feel better, if I should feel proud of what they said or if Im just full of myself (and hot air!!!)
Im trying to just have satisfaction by knowing I did my best and knowing that it doesnt matter what others think of me, IM the one who has to feel good about me and no one else!!!!
Thanks, Lani
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"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
Lani, Seems to me that YOU ARE LOVABLE because one of things that AA teaches is the art of giving.......love. What we sow is what we reap. Sounds like the love you are giving you are as well reaping. And that's not boasting. You go girl! Wanda
"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. "
