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little bit better
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I actually for the most part feel ok right now... since counseling today. I was dreading counseling so bad... I'd been doing writing exercises from a book and emailing what I wrote to my counselor... and then I had a really bad weekend... I was dreading talking about it all... but we talked about mostly...
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Good to be back at Home!!!!
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Had a great time in Oklahoma City and it was wonderful traveling through 5 beautiful states to get there. The ex-wife did NOT freak out at all, to my surprise... no, my husband ended up being the emotional one!!!!
Anyhoo, it was so good to see the boys. Oklahoma City is very beautiful and the weather wa...
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update - long
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Hi everyone,
I’m back. Did some more research again & WHAT a lesson…..why do I do this to myself? Again & again?
I have no one to blame but myself!
I had a no-where job, no-where life so I decided to put in my notice with my apartment complex. ...
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It has been a little while
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Well it has only been a week, last Sunday, but feels I have been away from the Board for a month, got this Bug, and have been in Bed, and Ugh, that can just so boring.
Just wanted to say hello, and hope everyone is doing o.k. today, and hope to rejoin you all soon.
Hugs, Toni
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A bit of a relapse
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Ok it was a big one.I went on a boat crusie on Friday night with every intention of behaving but had that first beer.I felt so bad on Saturday and embarrassed of my self because I didnt have the self-control to control my drinking.I was doing so good,I now know that I cant be around booze.I am thinking that...
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Daily Reflections Sept 26
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OUR CHILDREN The alcoholic may find it hard to re-establish friendly relations with his children. . . . In time they will see that he is a new man and in their own way they will let him know it. . . . From that point on, progress will be rapid. Marvelous results often follow such a reunion. ALCOHOLICS ANONYM...
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advice
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my partner is suffering from anxiety, I need some advice, she is anxious about being off work with anxiety! I love her and dont want to see her hurt, but I feel that I can get annoyed with her as I think that she is trying to rush things through, I said "you wouldnt be running if you had a broken leg, so dont get...
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Are you afraid to be different?/ Joy
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Are you afraid to be different?
On the path of evolution, we move from being a willing and obedient member of the group to wanting to take control over our own lives. This is a necessary but difficult transition.
Andrew Schneider says, "At this point we are afraid of being ourselves. We are afraid o...
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Longer term difficulties
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I stumbled across a page of stuff that could be helpful concerning the dificulties we face after short term sobriety, just linking, copyrights and all.. http://www.tlctx.com/ar_pages/paw_part1.htm 3 pages, good stuff. Gave me another check up from the neck up. I get into an awfull rut with cigar...
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One Step at a Time
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"What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step."
-- Antoine De Saint-Exupery
Does the prospect of changing and growing seem monumental to you? Just too much to tackle?
Then consider this approach. Take a simple step of affirming your openness to experience more or something new....
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What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas
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Got home last night. What a glorious trip. Spent 2 days in Las Vegas, definately something to see, but I really enjoyed my time traveling thru Arizona. I've never been off the East Coast, so this was a real treat for me.............It is always wonderful to get away, but there is no place like home. :smi...
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Can someone be a "drunk"?
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OK, now, I don't think that's at all the acceptable term (drunk), but I don't know how to explain it any other way. My ex husband was what appeared, in every way, to be an alcoholic. Drank every night, got abusive, wrecked cars, lost jobs, cheated, lied, etc. And, in the past few mont...
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Daily Reflections Sept 25
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FIRST THINGS FIRST Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job -- wife or no wife -- we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 98 Before coming to A.A., I always had excuses for taking a dr...
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Today Offers Me ....
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I didn't really have a plan for a career, but I learned how to run our business quite successfully one day at a time. -- Joann Reed
Whether we have a specific plan for how we anticipate our lives unfolding or we react to opportunities spontaneously, we have to take whatever comes in small incremen...
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Quotes from Step Ten
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Courtesy, kindness, justice, and love are the keynotes by which we may come into harmony with practically anybody.
When a drunk has a terrific hangover because he drank heavily yesterday, he cannot live well today. But there is another kind of hangover which we all experience whether we are drink...
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still hurting... BUT
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I don't have to drink over this!
depression's not quite so bad as it was yesterday... well kinda up and down depression today, goes from bad to worse, bad to worse... but I will make it through this.
I feel weird though... confused??... uncomfortable??... no real word to place on what I'm feel...
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Daily Reflections Sept 24
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VIGILANCE We have seen the truth demonstrated again and again: "Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic." Commencing to drink after a period of sobriety, we are in a short time as bad as ever. If we are planning to stop drinking, there must be no reservation of any kind, nor any lurking notion that somed...
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Update; Family Death
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Hi Family,
As many of you now know, two of my aunts were brutally murdered in Fort Myers, Fla. on the 10th of Sept, two weeks ago.
Well, on Saturday, Sept 23rd, the person who murdered them was caught in Topeka, Kanas and is now in jail there. He was identified by finger prints and other forscen...
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Never let your head hang down
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Never let your head hang down. Never give up and sit down and grieve. Find another way. And don't pray when it rains if you don't pray when the sun shines. --Satchel Paige When children are tired they make their feelings very clear. They just sit down and start to cry. As adults, we may sometimes feel like...
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does anyone play piano?
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one of the most important things in my life is music, and my memory is gone! if anyone plays piano, i have some questions for you if you dont mind, it really aches not knowin what i once used to know, its like a part of me is missing....
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Online meetings
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Does anyone go to these online meetings that are listed above as being on Tuesdays and Saturdays?...Tim
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off topic
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does anyone know what drivers I can install or rather down load so I can watch/play dvd's on the pc?
Rob
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Hurting...
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I'm hurting a lot right now... I'm depressed, angry, raging... I was having fleeting thoughts of drinking... just thoughts like "I could use a drink right now" or "I need something to numb all this". I talked to some other alcoholics and I think I'm past it for now. I DO just want something to numb all thi...
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In me there is .....
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In me there is darkness. But with you there is light. -- Dietrich Bonhoeffer
A speaker at a meeting said, "To continue something when I'm making mistakes takes emotional courage." She was talking about making a decision to turn her will and life over to her Higher Power, and how it works in her life...
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Hey Younguns? Sayings I used to hear from my parents in 1955..
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"I'll tell you one thing, if things keep going the way they are, it's going to be impossible to buy a week's groceries for $20."
"Have you seen the new cars coming out next year? It won't be long before $2000 will only buy a used one."
"If cigarettes keep going up in price, I'm going to quit. A quarter a p...
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Am I An Alcoholic???
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The sub-questions are designed to help shed light on the basic question. Read them only if necessary, but don't count them separately. What will eventually happen is that you will have a discussion with yourself; this is only an outline to give your conversation some constructive direction.
Thi...
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Introducing my self
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Hi everbody
I am a 37 year old male that has been drinking for 25 years,with the very few and far between recreational pharmacutecal.I have never really admitted before that I have a problem only because I never drank everyday.I can go with out but if i have that first beer or drink it will lead to a lo...
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Surprising Ourselves
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. . .we may surprise ourselves by discovering a treasure.
Not all secrets are bad. Some secrets are more like unspoken, unacknowledged mysteries than sinister destructive forces. We may quietly know what it is like to be a man or a woman in an intimate relationship, but we may never have told anyo...
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pls answer 2 questions
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in volume 3 of the big book page 449 has that wonderful paragraph on acceptance. what page is it on in volume 4?
material success follows spiritual progress, it never precedes it. where is this quote found? i think it is in the steps.
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Emotional Shoplifting
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What is Emotional Shoplifting?Emotional Shoplifting is when you steal truth from yourself and/or fail to disclose truth to another person with whom you have an intimate, personal relationship. Each time you stifle your feelings, you are literally shoplifting, stealing and sabotaging your sel...
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New start today
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Hiya. started uni today, felt less "alone" in a crowded room than I thought I would, have the chance to study into alcohol abuse, think I will get a distinction in that bearing in mind I have lots of experience!, do you think I should or would it be better to go for something that is not so close to home like c...
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The Suns a commin up...
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We wake up each morning
Cobwebs in head
Man!! We’re still breathin
When we shoulda been dead
Four cups of coffee
And three smokes on the go
Lighting a fire
And thinkin of snow
It’s 5am
What the hell’s goin on
Should be in bed
Am I sick in the head?
Oh well..up and at it
And onwa...
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"just" and "only"
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I never realized how often I used the words "just" and "only." - Mary Pat K.
Adult children [of alcoholics] often live within a framework of shame. One symptom of this is we minimize our achievements, feelings, needs, or opinions. Behind that is our feeling that we aren't and can't do anything spe...
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We make a living by what we get ...
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We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. -- Winston Churchill
As we grow spiritually, we naturally become more generous. It's a quality of a well-developed person. Rather than being anxious over whether we will have enough -- and rather than hungrily seeking more and more...
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Taking life as it comes
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What used to seem so difficult now seems so simple. Staying focused in the day and enjoying life is so important to this alchy. This staying sober stuff rocks!!! Developing new friendships with sober people is a wonderful thing. When I go to meetings now I really look forwards to seeing new friends. Ha...
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Ohhhhh Yaaaaaa...
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Expectations
By Robert Burney M.A.
"I spent most of my life doing the Serenity prayer backwards, that is, trying to change the external things over which I had no control - other people and life events mostly - and taking no responsibility (except shaming and blaming myself) for my ow...
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Spontaneity
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The Language of Letting Go.
In recovery, we're learning to let ourselves go! We're learning to be spontaneous.
Spontaneity may frighten some of us. We may be afraid of the loss of control involved with spontaneity. We may still be operating under the codependent rules that prohibit spontaneit...
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~~~~~Bon Voyage~~~~~
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We are bound for Oklahoma tomorrow.....
Looking forward to a week of R & R, and a BIG FAT steak in cowboy country!!!
I will be passing by you, Ryan, and close to Thief... so I will holler out a big AA "YAAAAYYYY!!!!!" out the car window... Hope you two can hear me.. :o)
Everyone take care and have...
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The Past in the Present~Higher Awareness
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"If you accept a limiting belief, then it will become a truth for you."
-- Louise Hay
Pick one aspect of your life, e.g. your health, your competence, your prosperity or relationships, and think back to when you were a child. What messages about this subject did you hear from adults at that time tha...
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Life is not always what one wants it to be
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Life is not always what one wants it to be, but to make the best of it as it is, is the only way of being happy. -- Jennie Jerome Churchill
We are generally so certain that we know what's best for ourselves. And we are just as often certain that what we think is best will guarantee happiness. Perhaps we sh...
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Need insight
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Hope this isn't an inappropriate place for this. I am an art school student majoring in Metal Arts. My Mother is celebrating her 28th year (half her life) sober and still attends a weekly meeting. I have an assignment in class, basically to make a "bank" to hold a conceptual currency. I want to make some...
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Just a little FREAKED Out!!!!
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Good Morning,
Last week I saw a Doctor about now being Allergic to the full spectrum of Antibiotics. I was under the impression that if you had allergy testing done, they would be able to tell you, which antibiotic you were the least allergic to. That turned out, not to be the case. ...
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lazy
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hey folks, man Im not used to this motivate yourself business, I am used to someone cracking the whip, any suggestions for motivation? getting my butt out of bed before 11 in the morning would be a great start!, im skint so cant afford a motivation book but if you have any tips etc please assist! I have sor...
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Who WAS that girl?.........
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For the past few days I have been a little more reflective than usual. I was asked to lead a meeting this past Saturday, and then a different one tomorrow night. While I don't generally think too much about it, I did get taken back to some realizations about the old me, as I listened to a friend's story last...
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Letting The Good Stuff Happen...
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The Language of Letting Go.
Before recovery, my relationships were lousy. I didn't do very well on my job. I was enmeshed in my dysfunctional family. But at least I knew what to expect! --Anonymous
I want the second half of my life to be as good as the first half was miserable. Sometimes, I'...
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Family Deaths
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Hi everyone,
I haven't meant to be neglectful of the site or message boards lately, but I have had to be due to two deaths in my family that took place last Sunday.
Two of my aunts were murdered in Fort Myers, Fla. September 10th, 2006. It appears that one was killed at approxiately 3 pm,...
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Wierd night gone good.........
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Where do I start....
My husband and I were talking on the phone while he was at work.. we were discussing our vacation coming this Wednesday and we were talking about the money I have saved for it. My husband FREAKED out and said he didn't understand why we didn't have more saved... I do all the finances...
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Big Minds, Small Minds
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"It is the mind that makes one wise or ignorant, bound or emancipated."
-- Sri Ramakrishna
Zen distinguishes big mind from small mind. Big mind identifies with its process, is impersonal and participates universally. Big mind is unlimited possibilities, deeper understanding, forgiveness...
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Love involves a willingness
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Love involves a willingness to suffer and to be inconvenienced. -- Lewis F. Presnall
The act of loving another broadens our understanding of the human condition and often pinches our egos. Indeed, one of the greatest gifts, though not necessarily cherished, which is granted through loving...
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working the program at home
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Boy thats a tricky one, I thought I was self centred, but boy! my partner is another story, anything I do, she questions how it will affect her, I am starting uni, but there is a condition that when I finish I must get a job and pay for her to have babies and not to have to work, I know that sounds really bad of me...
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