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Sin and Guilt
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When we mock sin, and pretend that we can't be hurt by it, we are fooling ourselves. Sin has great power to hurt and destroy. Only a fool thinks otherwise. The wise man or woman knows the risk of sin, and they learn to avoid it. When we resist sin, we are walking in the favor of our higher power as we unde...
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Jeannie, please come back
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I'm sooo sorry you misinterpreted my replies to your post......I never meant for it to sound that way. I was talking about me and my religion and what I believe. I enjoy a good religious conversation, that how I learn. I would never, ever tell anyone they are wrong in what they believe in. I was just shari...
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moving out... yes, I'm finally gonna start listening to people
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I sorta have 2 new sponsors now, 2 women from my homegroup... I can't decide between them, and well, they said I could use them both for now... one of them I know has been through these same things I'm dealing with right now, and they both gave me the same advice, same suggestions... and I was being stub...
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Give it up already!!!!
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We had to surrender to a power greater than ourselves to get where we are today. And each day, we have to turn to that power for strength and guidance. For us, resistance means struggle-struggle with others as well as an internal struggle. Serenity isn't compatible with struggle. We cannot control fo...
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Todays a good day
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After three weeks of sweating out a very thorough background check. They called today and said I start monday. As checkered as my past prior to 95 is I never thought I'd make it past that part. Funny thing is that last night I told my wife that I was done worrying about this thing. The worry and relivin...
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I'm powerless over LIFE and my life has become unmanageable
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Yes, this is going to be a long ramble, you don't have to read it, but I about feel like I'm losing it right now and I gotta get all this out. I'm a total mess right now, and it's my own fault. I don't know, I've been a basketcase for the last few days. I really don't know what's going on. But you know, all throu...
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An Inner Choice
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Peace Often we look at the outside world and find it in a state of seeming chaos or disorder. We feel compelled to transform the situation from one of turmoil into one of peace, yet we are often disappointed in our best attempts to do so. One reason for this is that we cannot bring to the world what we do not h...
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OK Wren....Go Bake The Cake!! :)
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One of the most painful things we have to do in our lives is Letting Go. Sometimes it is Letting Go of things...material things which mean a lot to us, even if only sentimental value. It may mean Letting Go of feelings. When we hold sadness inside, and try to mask it with only a show of happiness, it is bette...
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The Boundaries of Experience
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Expanding Your Comfort Zone None of us are born with a guidebook that provides explicit rules for thought and behavior that will enable us to navigate life successfully. To cope with the myriad of complexities to which all of humanity is subject, we each develop a set of habits and routines that groun...
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Daily Reflections June 28
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THE DETERMINATION OF OUR FOUNDERS A year and six months later these three had succeeded with seven more. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 159 If it had not been for the fierce determination of our founders, A.A. would have quickly faded like so many other so-called good causes. I look at the hundreds of meeti...
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When Things Don't Work
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Frequently, when faced with a problem, we may attempt to solve it in a particular way. When that way doesn't work, we may continue trying to solve the problem in that same way. We may get frustrated, try harder, get more frustrated, and then exert more energy and influence into forcing the same solutio...
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Achieving Harmony
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When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he or she does not sit down and instantly play it perfectly. A pianist often needs to practice each hand's work separately to learn the feel, to learn the sound. One hand picks out a part until there is a rhythm and ease in playing what is difficult. Then, the musi...
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My "grandbabies" (kittens) lol
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[img]http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v17/LiaBunny/Sissys%20Kittens%20June%202...
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Hm, this is weird...
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For some reason I'm finding myself highly, um...ahem...aroused since I quit drinking. I dont know what to make of it? I dont know if it's normal or what but I'm like a walking sun dial. It's sort of distracting Anyone else experience this when they stopped drinking? Phil?
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Jun 27 Daily Reflections
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CONFORMING TO THE A.A. WAY We obey A.A.'s Steps and Traditions because we really want them for ourselves. It is no longer a question of good or evil; we conform because we genuinely want to conform. Such is our process of growth in unity and function. Such is the evidence of God's grace and love among us....
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Life get's better
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As I had posted earlier, I was upset about a job that i was trying to get, but I didnt drink over it. Instead, I prayed and asked God if it was his will to let me get it. Well, today I found out I wasnt going to get it. At first I was upset, then I remembered what I had asked God. As we all know, he always gives us a ans...
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Hello new here
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Just found this site today while looking for something up lifting. I haven't drank since 6/95. I'm being considered for a very good job but probably won't survive the back groundcheck due to all the stupid things I did while still drinking. I have found people to be not very forgiving. Oh don't get me w...
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oh crap!
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well, the 4 year relationship i was in thats been over about a year had ended badly with him refusing to speak to me any more as it continually went to conflict. (same old story, i wanted more) we were stuck in a pattern that suited him to a "t" but didnt do much for me. usually i end up on much more c...
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Whew!! Lot to catch up on here..:)
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My thoughts re....a couple of posts from below.... I believe that a lot of times...we can take things out of context...when posts or replys to posts are read...and we can take them as insulting, or personally...beyond...what they are really meant to be... I believe that any replys that someone get...
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Surviving Slumps
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A slump can go on for days. We feel sluggish, unfocused, and sometimes overwhelmed with feelings we can't sort out. We may not understand what is going on with us. Even our attempts to practice recovery behaviors may not appear to work. We still don't feel emotionally, mentally, and spiritually as go...
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Struggling...
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I'm having a really difficult time right now...cant seem to keep the "just for today" philosophy in my mind. I keep thinking about things in terms of "never", "forever" and "the rest of my life"...I don't think I have what it takes to do anything for the re...
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Just my thought
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If we choose to follow in the footsteps of fools, we will also have to suffer the consequences. When we walk along blindly, we are in danger of falling into sin. We must watch our steps and turn from that which is evil. It is our obligation to flee from sin and evil. If we keep company with fools we will...
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Accepting Reality
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...self-contempt never inspires lasting change. -- Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter I can suck myself down into a deep, black hole when I focus on what I think I SHOULD be more loving, sexy, productive, whatever. Thinking I should be something else means Im not good enough now. This is poverty th...
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Daily Reflections June 26
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A GIFT THAT GROWS WITH TIME For most normal folks, drinking means conviviality, companionship and colorful imagination. It means release from care, boredom and worry. It is joyous intimacy with friends and a feeling that life is good. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 151 The longer I chased these elusive...
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Burdensome Feelings
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Blaming Others As we begin to truly understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relat...
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Just checkin in...
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Hey y'all, just checkin in... haven't posted here in awhile... pretty hot here today, but the house is staying cool enough at least... and it's not so bad in the shade outside... Been busy doing major clean up around here all week... I've been working on the house mostly and a bit here and there outside...
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I'm not dead yet
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Hi. Just checking in. Anybody have any words of wisdom or encouragement for me to publicly mock but secretly appreciate?
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Chat room
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When is the best time to be involved in the AA chat room. I live in the UK. I've never used a chat room before and would like to give it a go, but so far have found it empty ???? Welshgit
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Daily Reflections June 25
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A TWO-WAY STREET If we ask, God will certainly forgive our derelictions. But in no case does He render us white as snow and keep us that way without our cooperation. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 65 When I prayed, I used to omit a lot of things for which I needed to be forgiven. I thought that if I di...
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Withholding
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Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. We're not available to participate in the relationship. We shut down. Sometimes, it is appropriate and healthy to shut down in a relationship. We may legitimat...
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Just sayin "Hi"
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Checkin in...and just saying hi.... Dts from computer meltdown are a bitch!! :) No addiction here!! jee sus!! New system and comming back online in a few days... Different email address also... Stay sober....stay sane.... Keep on truckin!! and Watch out for Turnip trucks!! Onward!!!
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H.A.L.T....
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heh, well, wasn't posting for awhile, now I'm posting a lot... lol H.A.L.T... Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired... I was a bit hungry... not exactly angry... lonely... and definitely tired... have been up all night... being an overprotective mama, and stirrin up trouble... lol I've got a good...
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Well well well...
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You all said I was too flippant to be serious about quitting drinking. You mocked me for coming and going and not being able to make it stick...you were cold, callous and insensitive. Well I've got a little news flash for you, I did finally get "it" and I have put together some clean time s...
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The Light Of Truth
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It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness. -- Chinese Proverb With all the negativity that surrounds us, it is easy to become overwhelmed. It is also tempting to fight against the negative or to declare war on it. Yet a master teacher offered a better way: "Resist not evil, but overc...
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Just a couple of questions
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First, is there a way to do spell check when writing a post. Second, Is there a thread where folks can post Quotes that they have heard in meeting and other places that have been a big help in their recovery?
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Hi, I'm an Alcoholic!
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New to this whole AA thing, and, well, frankly, comparatively new to the whole alcoholic thing. It's developed into quite the interesting little life predicament in the last, oh, two years, I'd say. Hmm. It's been a rough two years, as I'm sure many of you can relate to. Before I ever became an alcoholi...
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Jillian
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Hi Jillian... I saw you wrote a post that quickly stated you were new to this on Doll's thread. Just wanted to bring it up top so we can welcome you! I am an alkie from Ct, nice to meet you... feel free to post anytime... lots of supportive people here!
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I actually sorta chaired a meeting :) ...and 4th step
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Well, even with being in and out of the program for a year now, I'd never chaired a meeting... I did pick a topic a couple of weeks ago at one meeting, it's one where whoever has a topic can speak up. But at tonight's meeting, there's a guy that always chairs it, but he has a speech problem, and so he starts i...
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Seek Union over Seperation
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Beliefs separate. Loving thoughts unite. -- Paul Ferrini Our ego focuses on how we are different from the rest of the world. We connect with soul when we experience how we are the same. Any time you separate yourself from other people or from situations, you know your personality is in control. At suc...
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Letting Go of Old Beliefs
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Try harder. Do better. Be perfect. These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done. Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their goal. W...
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written by my struggling AH-(long)
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A little history---39 year old husband struggling with addiction for 2 years. In and out of sobriety for 2 years. Presently dealing with some serious legal consequences. I found this today---I haven't heard from him since yesterday at 5p. Here goes... It's at these times that I truly believe th...
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D.R. June 23
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TRUSTING OTHERS But does trust require that we be blind to other people's motives or, indeed, to our own? Not at all; this would be folly. Most certainly, we should assess the capacity for harm as well as the capability for good in every person that we would trust. Such a private inventory can reveal the...
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Well Done - Ron70062
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Hi Ron, I decided to start a new thread as your last one was starting to get a little lost. Well done on making a week!!! A Very Big Congratulations!!! Keep going one day at a time. And, please keep posting and let us know how it's going for you, won't you? Take care, Carol
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Truth
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Four Noble Truths: Life means suffering The cause of suffering The end of suffering The path to the end of suffering Eightfold Path To Enlightenment: Right knowledge Right intention Right speech Right action Right livelihood Right effort Right mindfulness Right concentration
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Imposing Your Will on Others
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The right to make your own choices is a precious one. We grow when we have the freedom to decide our own paths and determine what makes us happy. Yet there are those who are inclined to try and control others. They may be driven by insecurity, envy, fear, or the need for power. These people are deeply crit...
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D.R. June 22
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TODAY, I'M FREE This brought me to the good healthy realization that there were plenty of situations left in the world over which I had no personal power--that if I was so ready to admit that to be the case with alcohol, so I must make the same admission with respect to much else. I would have to be still and...
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Off topic - Comical!
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Thought someone might like a chuckle The kitties are now 2 months old and I've had no luck finding homes for them. I told my b/f John I had no choice but take them to the SPCA. He's such a sucker sometimes - hee, hee. Couldn't stand the fact they could be put to sleep so he bit the bullet and said "Pick one...
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500 Days Sober Today!
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Hi everyone, I have just worked out that today is my 500th sober day! I cannot believe the amazing difference in my life now and how it was when I was still drinking. I am so very grateful to AA and so incredibly lucky to have found the fellowship. Also, it was one year ago yesterday that I was lucky enough to...
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Boundaries
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Having boundaries doesn't complicate life; boundaries simplify life. --Beyond Codependency There is a positive aspect to boundary setting. We learn to listen to ourselves and identify what hurt us and what we don't like. But we also learn to identify what feels good. When we are willing to take som...
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Prayers
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Everyone has those times when their hearts feel heavy...... At present there is alot that seems to be weighing on mine. I know I can only pray and leave it to God. I do ask your prayers for these people: My sister had surgery close to 3 mos. ago to remove tumor from her colon. Infection set...
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