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Fear And Relationships
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Fear and Relationships
Fear keeps us from leading meaningful lives and having meaningful relationships.
Inner Dragons Our inner dragons of fear can keep us from having meaningful relationships. These fears can make us run from love and intimacy and hide from the very things we say...
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sharing the REAL me
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Sharing The Real Me
"Sharing with others keeps us from feeling isolated and alone."Basic Text pg. 81Intimacy is the sharing of our innermost thoughts and feelings with another human being. Many of us long for the warmth and companionship intimacy brings, but those things don't come without ef...
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good fear.....bad fear
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Wisdom for Today There are two kinds of fear in this world, healthy fear and unhealthy fear. Healthy fear tells you not to do something that will harm yourself, like grabbing onto live electrical wires. Unhealthy fear, on the other hand, distorts reason and distorts beliefs. Unhealthy fear can co...
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starting over
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IM SO DOWN RIGHT KNOW..LAST NIGHT I FAILED AGAIN.... MAN I JUST CAN DO THIS ITS SO DAME HARD.. SOMEONE TOLD ME THAT ITS JUST IN MY HEARD.. BUT TO ME ITS A DISEASE..
MY DAD DRINKS MY BROTHER AND MY MOM USE TO SHE STOP.. IM SO TRYERD OF FAILING..
PS SORRY FOR MY SPELLING NOT GOOD
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how does the chat room work?
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??? I've "entered" the room using my nickname, and I get a message back /NICK
What do I do next? How do I join and chat with the other 3 people that are already in?
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So What Do I do Now???
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Sorry about the login name, I couldn't decide on anything without being depressing.
After 30yrs of not missing a single day of drinking I stopped 8 days ago. I thought it would be harder or something bad would happen. I at least thought that I wouldn't be able to sleep without being boozed up. Not tr...
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Stopdrinking...
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If you're still on and need to talk, go to the chat room. I'm headed there now. just clink on the link in the upper left of your screen and it'll take you ther. It takes a few minutes so be patient.
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step 11....and trusting hp has a plan for me
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Subject: Meditation: Step Eleven
"Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out." -- Step Eleven of Alcoholics Anonymous Days of Healing Days o...
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good morning
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Tuesday, November 29, 2005
Freedom of attitude When you wake up in the morning, you are completely free to choose whatever attitude you wish to have. And the attitude you choose can have an enormous impact on the way your day unfolds.
Each time you encounter another person, you are completely fre...
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MY God does not have to be a father
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A Strong Father
Many of us understand God in terms of a father, one on whom we can rely no matter what the situation. Our biological father may have been a tyrant or a pal, remote or accessible, firm or weak. However much we loved him and depended on him, he was only a person and not infallible.For reco...
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Dancing with GOD
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When I meditated on the word Guidance, I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word. I remember reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn't flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and jerky. When one per...
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Thoughts
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When written in Chinese, the word crisis is composed of two characters--one represents danger and the other represents opportunity. --John F. Kennedy
Family crises are unavoidable. At times, things are going to break down. This is no reason to give up and abandon ship. These breakdowns are...
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firstday
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well for about 5 days I went on a drinking rage... and lastnight I got so missed up.. and my husbent wrote me a letter.. telling me i need to stop or im going to lose him and my kids.
and today i didnt drink but what about tomorrow..im so so scard
ill take it one day at a time need to find a mee...
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Stuart Smalley
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Daily Affirmation with Stuart Smalley
Stuart Smalley is a caring nurturer, a member of several twelve-step programs, but not a licensed therapist. His show "Daily Affirmations" is on a cable access channel. The show is geared to help people with mental disabilities, such as overeatin...
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What Makes Forgiveness So Hard?
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What Makes Forgiveness So Hard?
Why Forgiveness is so Hard? And how we can change? Human behavior that suggests that people are “hard-wired" to experience ruptured relational bonds, psychological distance, physiological arousal, and the desire to retaliate when they ha...
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I'm so stupid and need a bit of help!!
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Hello all
I'm sorry about this but I have to ask if anyone knows how I can get back into the Al-anon chat room as my computer went awal this morning and has for some reason dumped it from my favorites.
I'm sorry to ask such a stupid question but I tryed looking on the web and all I could find was thi...
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dreams ARE renewable
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Dreams are renewable.
No matter what our age or condition, there are still untapped possibilities within us and new beauty waiting to be born. DALE TURNER When we were kids, we had big dreams of what we would do when we grew up. Some of us feel sad when we compare the big plans we used to have t...
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SOMETIMES amends are for me!!!
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Hope for Today - November 28
My parents didn't know I was angry with them, because I was the "good" kid. I felt angry about the drinking and the constant chaos, but I never said anything. I swallowed my resentment, thinking either my needs would go away or my parents would change. Of course...
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The 3rd one...out of a 12 pack
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STEP THREE "Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him"
Practicing Step Three is like the opening of a door which to all appearances is still closed and locked. All we need is a key, and the decision to swing the door open. There is only one key, and it is c...
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THINK ABOUT THIS
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Wise sayings often fall on barren ground;but a kind word is never thrown away.
Gratitude is fine but it is not enough.
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Sunday Stuff
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To avoid situations in which you might make mistakes may be the biggest mistake of all.
There are people who are always anticipating trouble, and in this way they manage to enjoy many sorrows that never really happen to them."
Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of...
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if only i could sleep in!!!!
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sundays are my only day off.....crap....
so i'm off to a meeting. Get to drive myself there!!! yay!!
my car's a tad noisy, rusty...but hey it works.... among other things i know that work...:)
if it works...work it..right?!
i've been doing some heavy thinking on my daughter this week. I got h...
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Bitch and moan!
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My sponsor says if you don't get mad once in a while, you're not working the program hard enough.......Guess I've been going at it full force the last few days...
There are some with many years of sobriety, but it seems very LITTLE recovery. Bitch and moan constantly about what'...
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giving up is NOT losing
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Giving up is not giving in, nor is it failing. It is no longer needing to be right. --Anonymous
When someone tells us a riddle, we may give up if we don't know the answer. We give up because we are tired of trying to get it, or because we are eager to find out what it is. Giving up in other situations, may be...
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can i do it?
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So, I really do want to stop drinking, or do I? I've never had a dui, never had a morning eye opener, never called in sick due to a hangover, never had a blackout or anything like that. But I still drink everyday and look forward to it. I do seem to drink more and more. Wine mostly, red win...
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toothpaste
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One day at a time, taking it easy….how do if I know I’m doing it right?
Squeezed the crap out of the old tube…..all gunky & gross!!! It’s just gross!!!!
So I bought a new tube a couple of weeks ago at the local dollar store.
When I went to brush my teeth that nigh...
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The 2nd year blues
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I'm 2 years and 30 something days sober. My personal deffects have become even more apparent ..... I am crabby and unhumble and miserable a lot of the time....... constantly battling the world telling myself to let go and let GOD but as soon as I say that I lash out at the world again. I am red...
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Sobriety anniversary
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I am so glad I found all of you. As my anniversary is nearing, I always find myself thinking of this journey of recovery I have been blessed with. I always seem to reflect at this time of year what is was like then and where I am now. I feel so blessed to have walked into AA. The jour...
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hi
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after getting a e mail from john i decided i missed u guys long enough i been good and sober and miss u all god bless wagon
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Negative vs Positive
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WE ARE ALL THINKING ALL OF THE TIME. Can you believe that our thoughts never leave us. Wow! Silly thoughts, hungry thoughts, angry thoughts, melancholy thoughts, happy thoughts; that’s a bunch of emotions that has a significant impact on our lives. Physically, emotionally, it’s all there. Every t...
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change is a long hard drag!!!
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Keep It Simple It’s going to be a long hard drag, but we’ll make it. ---Janis Jopin Some people start each day with a groan. They act like staying sober is no fun at all. They may have turned over their illness to their Higher Power. But they haven’t yet turned over their will and their life. They don’t se...
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Ouch---this hits home.
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Some Things Can Be Fixed. . . Others Must HealThom Rutledge, Guest Author
Are you a fixer?
When someone tells you a problem they are having, do you immediately feel the need to offer advice? Is it difficult for you to just listen to someone who is in distress, to just be there for them with...
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George Best 0 alcoholism 1
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http://lfpress.ca/newsstand/Sports/Soccer/2005/11/26/1324617-sun.htmlneeded to add something to this, George Bests final battles have been the subject of much media interest.
I am not a fan of his, not a soccer fan, but i have one thing in common with him i to am an alcoholic.
it helps me...
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Dont Quit
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DON'T QUIT!
When things go wrong as they sometimes will When the road you're trudging seems all up hill When the funds are low and the debts are high And you want to smile, but you have to sigh When care is pressing you down a bit Rest, if you must, but don't you quit. Life is queer, with its twists and t...
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hmmmmn?
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I would be 84 days sober now if I hadnt had a 2 day slip,
can I just deduct that from the total or do I start counting from the slip hmmmmmnnn?
ok I guess I know the honest answer You gotta love me for tryin   &n...
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I'm Thankful
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Good morning all you sick folks.
Well I made it sober while being around my sick family. I have 3 brothers and 1 sister and they are all heavy drug and drink users. My oldest brother is meaner than all get out. Mike is his name and Mad Dog 20/20 is his game. I had no problems with him this time,,hmmm wounder...
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recovery...absolutely!!!
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Today is November 26, 2005 A Great Day for Recovery!
RECOVERY
"There is a destiny that makes us brothers, none goes his way alone. All that we send into the lives of others come back into our own." -- Edwin Markham I can remember when I felt so isolated and alone. I used to look at peopl...
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wow, have i missed you's!!!!!
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i've been working my a$$ off, :)
its been tough but i'm hanging in there, i reaaly have been missing my meetings!!
working 10 am to 11 pm, i'm determined to get through christmas...for xtra cash...then i'll see how i feel.
my computers monitor went on me a couple of weeks ago so i haven't been able t...
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Hey Cabbagehead
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Saw your message from down below.
Got the cookies thing on the computer all fixed hu?
Hows it goin over there,,and the new job,still going well?....
How many days till you leave for the big day?
Snow? You vant snow? 2 feet in 2 days.---then the temps going back up to 50 and...
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need to find a meeting
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is there anyway you can look up meetsing on the compter. I need to find one. im getting bad again about drinking and need to go to a meeting please help me
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depression or just plain grief????
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Depression
All of us go through times of depression. When we were overeating, we may have felt depressed almost continually. We find that abstinence and the OA program lift us out of depression. The outward circumstances of life may not change radically, but by means of our program we experienc...
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Self-centeredness
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One year ago, I became very ill. I had a wonderful career in social work. Because of my illness, I have had to step away from my job till who knows when. I have always been very active in recovery and maintained a balance in family, career, and recovery. I will have 10 years coming up in a wonderful ne...
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Self Esteem
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Poor Self-Esteem vs. Healthy Self-Esteem People with poor self-esteem often rely on how they are doing in the present to determine how they feel about themselves. They need positive external experiences to counteract the negative feelings and thoughts that constantly plague them. Even t...
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New Looking for support
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Hello, I am new. I am an alcoholic married to an alcoholic. I feel powerless and out of control and am searching for a support system. I hope I can find that here.
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29 days sober-
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I am headed up to a weekend convention in my state of Connecticut- Rock on!
Hope everyone has a great weekend-
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"Potato Chip Dance" story site
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cry----www.dodgenet.com/~tzingale/occaison/frame.htm
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Some thoughts….
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Hi everyone,
Happy Turkey Day!
I’m seeing patterns that I’ve never seen before. I used to numb it out, but now, sober almost 90 days, it’s amazing how I’m handling it. Just being AWARE is truly a gift for which I’m grateful.
My family is a mess…but it doesn’t hurt s...
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Snow For Sale!! Inventory Is Piling Up!!
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I went to sleep with gum in my mouth and now there's gum in my hair and when I got out of bed this morning I tripped on the skateboard and by mistake I dropped my sweater in the sink while the water was running and I could tell it was going to be a terrible day. --Judith Viorst
Some days, for all our good in...
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re...Your post Jeanie
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I Read your post from Below Jeanie. Thought that others here might wish to respond to it also.
My opinion? As long as my side of the street is clean...let em yap. And the best reaction..is no reaction.---also--if they are talking about me...they are not talking about someone else.:)
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thankfully...it's another great day for recovery:)
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Today is November 24, 2005 A Great Day for Recovery!
SHAME
"If we are not ashamed to think it, we should not be ashamed to say it." -- Marcus Tullius Cicero I was afraid to tell you what I was thinking. I was afraid to speak or be noticed. I sat for hours silent and at times I wished I could...
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