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Longer term difficulties
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I stumbled across a page of stuff that could be helpful concerning the dificulties we face after short term sobriety, just linking, copyrights and all.. http://www.tlctx.com/ar_pages/paw_part1.htm 3 pages, good stuff. Gave me another check up from the neck up. I get into an awfull rut with cigar...
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Online meetings
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Does anyone go to these online meetings that are listed above as being on Tuesdays and Saturdays?...Tim
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Are you afraid to be different?/ Joy
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Are you afraid to be different?
On the path of evolution, we move from being a willing and obedient member of the group to wanting to take control over our own lives. This is a necessary but difficult transition.
Andrew Schneider says, "At this point we are afraid of being ourselves. We are afraid o...
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What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas
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Got home last night. What a glorious trip. Spent 2 days in Las Vegas, definately something to see, but I really enjoyed my time traveling thru Arizona. I've never been off the East Coast, so this was a real treat for me.............It is always wonderful to get away, but there is no place like home. :smi...
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In me there is .....
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In me there is darkness. But with you there is light. -- Dietrich Bonhoeffer
A speaker at a meeting said, "To continue something when I'm making mistakes takes emotional courage." She was talking about making a decision to turn her will and life over to her Higher Power, and how it works in her life...
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Hey Younguns? Sayings I used to hear from my parents in 1955..
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"I'll tell you one thing, if things keep going the way they are, it's going to be impossible to buy a week's groceries for $20."
"Have you seen the new cars coming out next year? It won't be long before $2000 will only buy a used one."
"If cigarettes keep going up in price, I'm going to quit. A quarter a p...
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Hurting...
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I'm hurting a lot right now... I'm depressed, angry, raging... I was having fleeting thoughts of drinking... just thoughts like "I could use a drink right now" or "I need something to numb all this". I talked to some other alcoholics and I think I'm past it for now. I DO just want something to numb all thi...
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off topic
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does anyone know what drivers I can install or rather down load so I can watch/play dvd's on the pc?
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Am I An Alcoholic???
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The sub-questions are designed to help shed light on the basic question. Read them only if necessary, but don't count them separately. What will eventually happen is that you will have a discussion with yourself; this is only an outline to give your conversation some constructive direction.
Thi...
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Surprising Ourselves
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. . .we may surprise ourselves by discovering a treasure.
Not all secrets are bad. Some secrets are more like unspoken, unacknowledged mysteries than sinister destructive forces. We may quietly know what it is like to be a man or a woman in an intimate relationship, but we may never have told anyo...
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Emotional Shoplifting
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What is Emotional Shoplifting?Emotional Shoplifting is when you steal truth from yourself and/or fail to disclose truth to another person with whom you have an intimate, personal relationship. Each time you stifle your feelings, you are literally shoplifting, stealing and sabotaging your sel...
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Introducing my self
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Hi everbody
I am a 37 year old male that has been drinking for 25 years,with the very few and far between recreational pharmacutecal.I have never really admitted before that I have a problem only because I never drank everyday.I can go with out but if i have that first beer or drink it will lead to a lo...
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pls answer 2 questions
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in volume 3 of the big book page 449 has that wonderful paragraph on acceptance. what page is it on in volume 4?
material success follows spiritual progress, it never precedes it. where is this quote found? i think it is in the steps.
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The Suns a commin up...
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We wake up each morning
Cobwebs in head
Man!! We’re still breathin
When we shoulda been dead
Four cups of coffee
And three smokes on the go
Lighting a fire
And thinkin of snow
It’s 5am
What the hell’s goin on
Should be in bed
Am I sick in the head?
Oh well..up and at it
And onwa...
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"just" and "only"
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I never realized how often I used the words "just" and "only." - Mary Pat K.
Adult children [of alcoholics] often live within a framework of shame. One symptom of this is we minimize our achievements, feelings, needs, or opinions. Behind that is our feeling that we aren't and can't do anything spe...
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We make a living by what we get ...
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We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. -- Winston Churchill
As we grow spiritually, we naturally become more generous. It's a quality of a well-developed person. Rather than being anxious over whether we will have enough -- and rather than hungrily seeking more and more...
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New start today
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Hiya. started uni today, felt less "alone" in a crowded room than I thought I would, have the chance to study into alcohol abuse, think I will get a distinction in that bearing in mind I have lots of experience!, do you think I should or would it be better to go for something that is not so close to home like c...
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Ohhhhh Yaaaaaa...
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Expectations
By Robert Burney M.A.
"I spent most of my life doing the Serenity prayer backwards, that is, trying to change the external things over which I had no control - other people and life events mostly - and taking no responsibility (except shaming and blaming myself) for my ow...
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Spontaneity
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The Language of Letting Go.
In recovery, we're learning to let ourselves go! We're learning to be spontaneous.
Spontaneity may frighten some of us. We may be afraid of the loss of control involved with spontaneity. We may still be operating under the codependent rules that prohibit spontaneit...
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Taking life as it comes
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What used to seem so difficult now seems so simple. Staying focused in the day and enjoying life is so important to this alchy. This staying sober stuff rocks!!! Developing new friendships with sober people is a wonderful thing. When I go to meetings now I really look forwards to seeing new friends. Ha...
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~~~~~Bon Voyage~~~~~
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We are bound for Oklahoma tomorrow.....
Looking forward to a week of R & R, and a BIG FAT steak in cowboy country!!!
I will be passing by you, Ryan, and close to Thief... so I will holler out a big AA "YAAAAYYYY!!!!!" out the car window... Hope you two can hear me.. :o)
Everyone take care and have...
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The Past in the Present~Higher Awareness
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"If you accept a limiting belief, then it will become a truth for you."
-- Louise Hay
Pick one aspect of your life, e.g. your health, your competence, your prosperity or relationships, and think back to when you were a child. What messages about this subject did you hear from adults at that time tha...
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Life is not always what one wants it to be
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Life is not always what one wants it to be, but to make the best of it as it is, is the only way of being happy. -- Jennie Jerome Churchill
We are generally so certain that we know what's best for ourselves. And we are just as often certain that what we think is best will guarantee happiness. Perhaps we sh...
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does anyone play piano?
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one of the most important things in my life is music, and my memory is gone! if anyone plays piano, i have some questions for you if you dont mind, it really aches not knowin what i once used to know, its like a part of me is missing....
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lazy
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hey folks, man Im not used to this motivate yourself business, I am used to someone cracking the whip, any suggestions for motivation? getting my butt out of bed before 11 in the morning would be a great start!, im skint so cant afford a motivation book but if you have any tips etc please assist! I have sor...
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Need insight
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Hope this isn't an inappropriate place for this. I am an art school student majoring in Metal Arts. My Mother is celebrating her 28th year (half her life) sober and still attends a weekly meeting. I have an assignment in class, basically to make a "bank" to hold a conceptual currency. I want to make some...
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Who WAS that girl?.........
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For the past few days I have been a little more reflective than usual. I was asked to lead a meeting this past Saturday, and then a different one tomorrow night. While I don't generally think too much about it, I did get taken back to some realizations about the old me, as I listened to a friend's story last...
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Letting The Good Stuff Happen...
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The Language of Letting Go.
Before recovery, my relationships were lousy. I didn't do very well on my job. I was enmeshed in my dysfunctional family. But at least I knew what to expect! --Anonymous
I want the second half of my life to be as good as the first half was miserable. Sometimes, I'...
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Big Minds, Small Minds
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"It is the mind that makes one wise or ignorant, bound or emancipated."
-- Sri Ramakrishna
Zen distinguishes big mind from small mind. Big mind identifies with its process, is impersonal and participates universally. Big mind is unlimited possibilities, deeper understanding, forgiveness...
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Love involves a willingness
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Love involves a willingness to suffer and to be inconvenienced. -- Lewis F. Presnall
The act of loving another broadens our understanding of the human condition and often pinches our egos. Indeed, one of the greatest gifts, though not necessarily cherished, which is granted through loving...
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Family Deaths
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Hi everyone,
I haven't meant to be neglectful of the site or message boards lately, but I have had to be due to two deaths in my family that took place last Sunday.
Two of my aunts were murdered in Fort Myers, Fla. September 10th, 2006. It appears that one was killed at approxiately 3 pm,...
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Wierd night gone good.........
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Where do I start....
My husband and I were talking on the phone while he was at work.. we were discussing our vacation coming this Wednesday and we were talking about the money I have saved for it. My husband FREAKED out and said he didn't understand why we didn't have more saved... I do all the finances...
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I got a temp. sponsor!!!
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I went to my meeting tonight and it was a wonderful one about overcoming fears, which really carries over into so many parts of life. After the meeting, we were all talking and a guy brought up sponsorship in regards to me. Before I knew it, he had a lady at my side, suggesting that I call her a...
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People Pleasing...Having Trouble Saying No?
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by Kali Munro, M.Ed.,
Do you have trouble saying NO? Do you do things for other people but almost never ask anybody to do things for you? You may be a people pleaser.
People pleasers think of other people’s needs before their own. They worry about what other people want, think, or need, and spend a lo...
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working the program at home
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Boy thats a tricky one, I thought I was self centred, but boy! my partner is another story, anything I do, she questions how it will affect her, I am starting uni, but there is a condition that when I finish I must get a job and pay for her to have babies and not to have to work, I know that sounds really bad of me...
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Going Easy
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Go easy. You may have to push forward, but you don't have to push so hard. Go in gentleness, go in peace.
Do not be in so much of a hurry. At no day, no hour, no time are you required to do more than you can do in peace. Frantic behaviours and urgency are not the foundation for our new way of life.
Do not b...
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Greetings
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Hi everybody,
I come from the sunny city of Dubai. We have a lovely fellowship which is evergrowing. The UAE has much to offer. Most of that I have enjoyed recently in the past year and a half of sobriety. Before that, I knew nothing of the beautiful city I lived in. Deja vu? LOL. I do that a l...
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Vacation
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I'm headed out this morning for the Grand Canyon! Be back next weekend........Ya'll keep on keeping on.........Love and peace to all.
Jen
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Daily Reflections Sept 17
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FREEDOM FROM FEAR When, with God's help, we calmly accepted our lot, then we found we could live at peace with ourselves and show others who still suffered the same fears that they could get over them, too. We found that freedom from fear was more important than freedom from want. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELV...
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Social Anxiety tonight
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Tonight I went out with some AA folks after the mtg. We went downtown and listened to bands....bands in bars that is.
Well, I must say I faked my good time as I was anxious as hell. Such a reminder that when I would go to these places, I would hurry to start drinking to relieve my social anxiousness. As lon...
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Forgiveness Among The Unforgiven
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by Ananda Abhaya Karuna
There are some things which we need to consider before we decide whether or not we want to forgive another. Forgiveness is a choice that must be freely made if the act is to have any value at all. It is not meant to be an act of kindness to the person who is forgiven, but to the...
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7th Tradition?
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At our 12&12 meeting we did the 7th tradition last night. Verrrrry interesting.
Needless to say I was a little irritated with this one. Statistics show that all our $$$ we put in baskets around the world go to AA as a whole. We support our own meetings and that's pretty much it. One of the ole' timer...
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Hi everyone
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Just wanted to say hi. I've been going to a lot of meetings over the last few weeks and am doing okay. I found someone who I want to ask to be my sponsor. She sees me wanting to rush through recovery and will help me slow down. Baby steps.
I read somewhere about a bridge be...
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My Role as an AA member
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Stay sober, One Day at a Time.
Share my Experience, Strength and Hope with another Alcoholic.
Help another find his/her way through the 12 Steps.
Help keep the meetings going, in whatever way I am able to.
Keep my side of the street clean.
Keep it simple.
Have Patience, Love and T...
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Just a little FREAKED Out!!!!
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Good Morning,
Last week I saw a Doctor about now being Allergic to the full spectrum of Antibiotics. I was under the impression that if you had allergy testing done, they would be able to tell you, which antibiotic you were the least allergic to. That turned out, not to be the case. ...
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The ability to persevere ...
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A big shot is just a little shot who kept on shooting. -- Zig Ziglar
Consider these words of Calvin Coolidge: "Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb....
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Meditation & Reflection Sept 16
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Today is September 16, 2006 A Great Day for Recovery!
DENIAL
"The worst vice of the fanatic is his sincerity." -- Oscar Wilde The disease of alcoholism is "cunning, baffling and powerful", and it manipulates us to believe "the lie". There is a point that we reach in our disease whe...
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Resigning
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I have to resign from my part time job today as to move on to a full time job. Will let you know more later. Just about enough to make a person want to drink - BUT I am not going to - even if my ass falls off.
Later - Jeannie
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Remember when.....
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"AA 12 STEPS IN REVERSE! 1. I declare my complete control over alcohol and everything else; and further declare that my life is in perfect order 2. I recognize no power as great as I am; nor any person as smart as I am, and if you don't like it come outside 3. I made a decision to run my life and everyone else's...
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Sick of being a martyr!
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Maybe it's the new antidepressant working well for me, but I swear I feel so much better. I hated being a martyr. Boo hoo! Poor me! I'm an alcoholic! Waaah! I got so sick of hearing myself whine. Maybe I'm getting closer to acceptance. I don't know...
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