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Staying off someone else's WHIRL
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That is the simplest term I can put my current marital challenge into.
I like when the road gets narrower.
Much simpler in spiritual terms.
Now I finally know what it is I am supposed to work on.
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I'm changing.. a lot... and it's good :)
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I'm already feeling better after crashing earlier today. When I talked to my sponsor, she said that overwhelming need to cry is just emotions, and when you're getting sober your emotions are screwed up and you might just want to cry out of the blue for no reason. She said it happened to her a lot. So at lea...
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Got a Copy
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I borrowed a copy of the big book from my friend today.it was given to her by her mother who is an alcoholic.i am going to start to read it when i go to bed.i am not sure of what to expect but i hope i can get something out of it like everybody else seems to have.
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Hurting....
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I have come to find that I really don't know what to do with myself when I am hurting. Last night's 'talk' with the hubby ended on a decent note... and I was very very busy throughout the day....
But now he is going out to eat with the guys and didn't inform me til the last minute.
Expectations... I Know....
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Slogans for the Newbies
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I thought maybe we could all share one AA slogan or two, with all the newcomers to this board. Let's keep it going, guys!!
I'll go first.
"One Day at a Time."
To me, this means that I only have to stay sober for 24 hours. I may not be able to make a decision to go the rest of my life without a drink, but I kno...
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wow
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I feel like a new person... it feels weird... just this weird feeling that I can't describe nagging at me all the time... but it's not necessarily a bad thing.
I'm having my ups and downs... sometimes what I'm dealing with gets me down... then I have counseling and we talk it over and usually I leave t...
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Be Aware of Your Motives
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"Ordinarily, everything we do is in our self-interest. Everything."
-- Anthony de Mello
"Remember, most of the things you think you need are ego trips designed to bolster your image and your perception of security.... You'll waste a lot of energy satisfying your ego only to find that, as soon as...
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To Gary.."Happy 17 Years"
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Gary and I met on the AA board a while ago..and even tho we have not shared on the AA board..have done a lot via phone and email...
I know that Gary comes on the board and reads the posts that we all share...
"GARY!!" One day at a time buddy...and many more days..
Life on lifes terms...no matter...
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Name it, claim it, and let it go!
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Forgiving Ourselves: Name it, claim it, and let it go! - by Gwendolyn M. Duhon, Ph.D.
The nature of being human is being imperfect. We, as human beings, make mistakes every day. Making mistakes can be a great learning experience. Finding out how not to do something can be as import...
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Self Worthiness
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At yesterdays meeting, the topic was forgiveness & it turned into how we don't think much of ourselves.
If left on my own, I will sink real low with or without alcohol.....
I guess that's why we keep going to meetings so we can be reminded that we're worth it.
I've slipped so many times....
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easy now
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Hi there, feeling a little better today, feel like I am achieving something finally, need to get a meeting in today or tomorrow, havent wanted to take a drink today, and for that I am grateful, just going to sit and watch a comedy, then off to hospital to see a sick realtive.
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Things don't bring true happiness
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The cost of a thing is the amount of what I will call life, which is required to be exchanged for it, immediately or in the long run. -- Henry David Thoreau
Consider the young man who was doing great in his high school studies, then suddenly started to fall behind. One day, a teacher pulled the young...
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Daily Reflections Sept 28
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LOVE WITHOUT STRINGS Practical experience shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 89 Sponsorship held two surprises for me. First, that my sponsees cared about me. What I had thought was gratitude was more li...
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I'm here
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Hey everyone! Just wanted to let you know that I'm all moved in to my new home state and new apartment here in North Carolina! So far, I really like the area---and we're just a few miles away from the beach, so what's not to love?
I went to my first meeting tonight here. The peo...
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Remaining calm.....
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Well,
My husband and I had to have a long talk tonight, and he was actually prepared to leave and go to his cousin's house if need be. But it didn't have to come to that, thanks to the program teaching me how to remain calm and stay grounded in the face of accusations and inventories. We are going th...
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rough day
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I've had a really rough day... just something I'm dealing with... I feel drained, about to go to bed and pass out. I really feel like I'm making some progress though... I'm learning how to get through this without drinking/other bad things... haven't even had a thought of it today even though today suc...
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Wise to stop smoking this soon?
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Hi Ya'll,
I'm sorry I haven't been around. I've been moving and getting settled in. Selling stuff on eBay since ex isn't paying alimony. (He's appealed the divorce ) It's really been busy around here.
My question is: Did any of you try...
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First Meeting..
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hello all:
i went to my first AA meeting last night. i was so inspired by it. i was so scared to go. i went with my bro in law. he introduced me to lots of the people. i really enjoyed listening to them. i don't feel so alone. well i should go.. have g...
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Letting Go...
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LETTING GO TAKES LOVE
To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natu...
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Ego Tricks
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"One of the great dangers of transformational work is that the ego attempts to sidestep deep psychological work by leaping into the transcendent too soon. This is because the ego always fancies itself much more ‘advanced’ than it actually is."
-- Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson
The Tibetan tea...
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HEY THERE
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HEY THERE, everything seems ok in life, not upset or depressed but really fancy a beer! not good huh?
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My Pink Cloud Days!
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Hi everyone,
I've been having a great few days recently. My boyfriend and I have finished setting up my new computer and it works just great; we had lunch out yesterday in a wonderful restaurant that specialises in fresh sea food, overlooking a marina; we are planning on going away for a few days ea...
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Daily Reflection Sept 27
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WITHOUT RESERVATION When brimming with gratitude, one's heartbeat must surely result in outgoing love, . . . . AS BILL SEES IT, p.37 While practicing service to others, if my successes give rise to grandiosity, I must reflect on what brought me to this point. What has been given joyfully, with love, m...
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Isn't it great life is open-ended!
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Isn't it great life is open-ended! -- Brigitte Frase
Elizabeth Lawton, known as "Grandma Layton," is an American artist who never drew a picture until she was 68 years old. She spent all the years before that time trying to cope with depression. She had gone through therapy, medications, and s...
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Earth to JUSTIN!!!!!!!!!
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Where ya' been??
Hope all is going well......
Joni
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working too much
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Just thought I'd let everyone know that I'm still around. Just working long hours...averaging from 55 to 65 hours a week right now, trying to keep the factory above the red line. Hit the office at 6:45am today and finally left at 7:15pm with 15 minutes off for lunch. Gotta be crazy t...
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The next right thing - HOW ???
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Need some help........My son is on a road to no where, fast. He's 16, barely passing in school, lieing about where he is and what he's doing. He got suspended 3 days while I was in AZ, I found out today when the letter came from the school. I provide him with a truck, I pay the insurance and I give him a t...
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Where's WALDO?????
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Just in case I 'vanish' for a week or so at some point in time, this is where I'll be...........
Joni
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Thoughts For The Day
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Men are always whining about how women are sufficating them.
Personally, I think if you can hear them whining..you are not pressing hard enough, on the pillow.
If your'e not supposed to stick Q-tips in your ears..what the hell are they for???
Actually...you can have a healthy sex life, well in...
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Against the Grain~OM
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Going Against What Is Popular
Just because an idea or way of doing things is popular doesn't mean it's right for everyone. However, part of the way that something becomes popular is that many of us don't take the time to determine what's right for us; we simply do what most of the people we know are doin...
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Today I will be grateful for where I am now.
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Today I will be grateful for where I am now.
My life might not be perfect, and I might not have achieved the goals I thought I would have by now; I might not be living the kind of life I thought I would be or want to be, but I'm grateful for this day, right now, and the fact that I've made a commitment to mysel... >
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Daily Reflections Sept 26
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OUR CHILDREN The alcoholic may find it hard to re-establish friendly relations with his children. . . . In time they will see that he is a new man and in their own way they will let him know it. . . . From that point on, progress will be rapid. Marvelous results often follow such a reunion. ALCOHOLICS ANONYM...
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re: longer term difficulties
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I tried something today, just for the hell of it, did without coffee. I drink a pot or two, spaced out through the day, and often have my ol (never washed) coffee cup in my hand when i'm off work and around the house.
Fairly dramatic difference.
Last night, after half a day off coffee, I layed down and r...
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little bit better
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I actually for the most part feel ok right now... since counseling today. I was dreading counseling so bad... I'd been doing writing exercises from a book and emailing what I wrote to my counselor... and then I had a really bad weekend... I was dreading talking about it all... but we talked about mostly...
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Good to be back at Home!!!!
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Had a great time in Oklahoma City and it was wonderful traveling through 5 beautiful states to get there. The ex-wife did NOT freak out at all, to my surprise... no, my husband ended up being the emotional one!!!!
Anyhoo, it was so good to see the boys. Oklahoma City is very beautiful and the weather wa...
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update - long
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Hi everyone,
I’m back. Did some more research again & WHAT a lesson…..why do I do this to myself? Again & again?
I have no one to blame but myself!
I had a no-where job, no-where life so I decided to put in my notice with my apartment complex. ...
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One Step at a Time
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"What saves a man is to take a step. Then another step."
-- Antoine De Saint-Exupery
Does the prospect of changing and growing seem monumental to you? Just too much to tackle?
Then consider this approach. Take a simple step of affirming your openness to experience more or something new....
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It has been a little while
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Well it has only been a week, last Sunday, but feels I have been away from the Board for a month, got this Bug, and have been in Bed, and Ugh, that can just so boring.
Just wanted to say hello, and hope everyone is doing o.k. today, and hope to rejoin you all soon.
Hugs, Toni
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A bit of a relapse
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Ok it was a big one.I went on a boat crusie on Friday night with every intention of behaving but had that first beer.I felt so bad on Saturday and embarrassed of my self because I didnt have the self-control to control my drinking.I was doing so good,I now know that I cant be around booze.I am thinking that...
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Daily Reflections Sept 25
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FIRST THINGS FIRST Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job -- wife or no wife -- we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 98 Before coming to A.A., I always had excuses for taking a dr...
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Today Offers Me ....
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I didn't really have a plan for a career, but I learned how to run our business quite successfully one day at a time. -- Joann Reed
Whether we have a specific plan for how we anticipate our lives unfolding or we react to opportunities spontaneously, we have to take whatever comes in small incremen...
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advice
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my partner is suffering from anxiety, I need some advice, she is anxious about being off work with anxiety! I love her and dont want to see her hurt, but I feel that I can get annoyed with her as I think that she is trying to rush things through, I said "you wouldnt be running if you had a broken leg, so dont get...
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Can someone be a "drunk"?
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OK, now, I don't think that's at all the acceptable term (drunk), but I don't know how to explain it any other way. My ex husband was what appeared, in every way, to be an alcoholic. Drank every night, got abusive, wrecked cars, lost jobs, cheated, lied, etc. And, in the past few mont...
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Quotes from Step Ten
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Courtesy, kindness, justice, and love are the keynotes by which we may come into harmony with practically anybody.
When a drunk has a terrific hangover because he drank heavily yesterday, he cannot live well today. But there is another kind of hangover which we all experience whether we are drink...
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Update; Family Death
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Hi Family,
As many of you now know, two of my aunts were brutally murdered in Fort Myers, Fla. on the 10th of Sept, two weeks ago.
Well, on Saturday, Sept 23rd, the person who murdered them was caught in Topeka, Kanas and is now in jail there. He was identified by finger prints and other forscen...
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Daily Reflections Sept 24
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VIGILANCE We have seen the truth demonstrated again and again: "Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic." Commencing to drink after a period of sobriety, we are in a short time as bad as ever. If we are planning to stop drinking, there must be no reservation of any kind, nor any lurking notion that somed...
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Sorry Off Topic
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I'm getting to where I fear going to bed at night. I'm so tired right now, but hubby's still up, so I might as well stay up, or that's what I'm telling myself... truth is, I don't want to face the racing thoughts that I've always had at night that have only gotten worse in the past 2 months since I've been deal...
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Never let your head hang down
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Never let your head hang down. Never give up and sit down and grieve. Find another way. And don't pray when it rains if you don't pray when the sun shines. --Satchel Paige When children are tired they make their feelings very clear. They just sit down and start to cry. As adults, we may sometimes feel like...
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still hurting... BUT
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I don't have to drink over this!
depression's not quite so bad as it was yesterday... well kinda up and down depression today, goes from bad to worse, bad to worse... but I will make it through this.
I feel weird though... confused??... uncomfortable??... no real word to place on what I'm feel...
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Longer term difficulties
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I stumbled across a page of stuff that could be helpful concerning the dificulties we face after short term sobriety, just linking, copyrights and all.. http://www.tlctx.com/ar_pages/paw_part1.htm 3 pages, good stuff. Gave me another check up from the neck up. I get into an awfull rut with cigar...
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