Somewhere in the big AA book, it talks about these 4 qualities.  [Has to do with (resentments or tolerance?)]If anyone can locate these pages, I'd appreciate it.  I got these 4 qualities, believe it or not, from an alanon tape.

1.  Generosity-- allow others their peculiarities.                   

2.  Vision-- is another's point of view; another's individuality

3.  Loving--  

4.  Bigness of Heart-- let others be happy in their own way.