I was at an AA meeting recently and the reading from the Big Book was "Belle of the Bar". I got so much out of that and it was so me! It isn't included in the copy of the Big Book that I have. I have been searching for it on the Internet all morning using Google, but I haven't been able to find it. I have found many references to it, but not the actual text.
Does anybody know if it is anywhere on the 'Net at all? I would so love to have a copy of it and to re-read it.
With all best wishes to you,
Carol
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
It was in the Third Edititon... I love that story too... :}
If you can find the stories from "Alcoholics Anonymous, Third Edition", lemme know. I will look for it also. We are udsing the Fourth Edition now.... the first 164 pages do not change with new editions; only some of the stories, so that new ones can be added to 'fit the times'...
awww... thanks for the well-wishing!! Actually, I am worse today... my neck is all seized up too now... aaargh!!! Being stationary kills me more than anything!!
I looked for an hour trying to google up the 3rd edition stories. By next week if you haven't landed it, I can photocopy it out of my own 3rd edition book, scan and attach to an e-mail message for you. Check to see, also, if they have any paperback copies at your local intergroup office. They are usually pretty cheap.
The only reference on the net...that I could find...
Biography: "Belle of the Bar"
Author unknown. (p. 478 in 3rd edition.)
They Lost Nearly All
"Waitress by day, barfly by night, she drifted down the years into jail. Then A.A. showed her the beauty of normal living, in a whole family reborn."
This alcoholic woman had been "slinging hash" for eighteen years, and she thought she was managing. She had a beat-up car that wasn't paid for, no clothes, no money, no home, no real friends to speak of, mentally and physically pooped, "but I was doing all right!"
She began drinking at the age of twelve and quit at thirty-two. She also had a pill problem and for two years she was also addicted to heroin, using as many as twenty caps a day. She felt she had wasted twenty years of her life, but was fortunate not to have brain damage.
After being arrested and serving six months on drug charges she didn't go back to heroin. Her poor mother had "three of her kids in jail that year - two sons and a daughter." A few years later an older brother died in a house fire because of "pills and booze."
She attempted suicide on several occasions "making sure there was always somebody within reaching distance." On one of these occasions her brother-in-law ran to her rescue but she wound up in a mental institution.
Finally, she and her surviving siblings were all in A.A. and her mother in Al-Anon.
In her story she told of the many benefits she had received from A.A. She had a happy marriage to a man she met in A.A. He taught her that in their new life she was the most important person of all. For her, her sobriety came before his or even before her feeling for him. He taught her that she must help herself first, only then would she be able to help others.
She and her husband were aware of the nice things around them, things they had never noticed before in their drunken stupor. She planted her first flower garden the year she wrote her story, she was enjoying hockey games with her husband and her brother without being "all boozed up." She went to church on Easter Sunday with her husband and "it didn't hurt at all." (And the church walls didn't tumble down.)
She knew that the biggest word for her in A.A. is "honesty." "I don't believe this program would work for me if I didn't get honest with myself about everything. Honesty is the easiest word for me to understand because it is the exact opposite of what I've been doing all my life. Therefore, it will be the hardest to work on. But I will never be totally honest -- that would make me perfect and none of us can claim to be perfect. Only God is."
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Thanks for trying to help me out. I do appreciate it. I keep trying and I have found what you have, but nothing more. I'm sure that I'll manage to get a copy of it, though.
Take care and have a good day.
Carol
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss