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Hi everyone,


I have been sober for 5 days now.  The last time I was drunk, I went on a binge for 4 days with my common-law partner.  I am taking it day by day... and thought this would be a good place to start for support, understanding and encouragement.


I thought today was saturday and was all excited to live chat.... yesterday... was the hardest for me.  My drinking pals kept calling me to come out and party.  I just layed low and kept away from the phone.  And then I started crying "how am I going to do this".  I'm scared as hell... I hope I can ... I want to quit for the sake of myself and for the sake of my daughter.


When I went on my binge, I kept on drinking because I thought it would take away the problems of what I did the night before.  On the day I sober up ...  I looked at my daughter and felt terrible ... that I needed a change.  So here I am today... looking for someone to understand.


Thanks for listening.  Candace



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i understand perfectly!! lots of good help here. wagon

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 Hey there, Candace, and welcome! Good for you, getting through those first five days. You do not have to be alone. We have all gone thru exactly what you've gone thru in one form or another. If you really want some good face to face support, I strongly suggest you go to the available AA meetings in your area. Try different ones, until you are comfy. Find the people you can relate to best. Check out our archives, and the available books on recovery.


You've taken the very first step by stopping, and admitting you have a problem. Now it's very important that you get local support. Call the AA hotline, and start meeting people who will be there for you physically. You can talk on the phone to someone tonight, and share with them.


It's so nice to see you here. Stay in contact, read as much as you can, know that we are here. Blessings Chris



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Thank you very much.  Am I suppose to be this emotional?  Just reading my reply's is making me cry.  So, I take it if I call the AA hotline, they will put me in contact with someone I can talk to right now?  That's probably what I need... atleast I'll be able to get my emotions out.


Thanks for the needed support.  I feel a bit better now.


Candace



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i would if i were you! it a big part of this program to get it out. wagon

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Yes, if you call the hotline, they will put you in touch with someone.


Of course you're emotional! Heck. I'm still emotional. You've made a life changing decision, so for heaven's sake, let the emotions flow, Candace. You deserve that after all you've gone thru. Feeling is what it's all about. All those new and comin' back feelings. Good choice.  Chris



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I feel so much better just reading your replys.  Thank you again.  I'm going to call the AA hotline right now and get in contact with someone.  And I'm looking forward to tomorrow night.  Thanks so much... Candace

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hi, Candace..  my motivation to get sober was my child , too.   I didn't care about myself, but I care very much about my child. The emotions,, yeah... I think I cried a lot for about a year into recovery,,,  for joy, for grief, and I balanced out after a while.  A lot of us drink to try to stuff feelings,, and when we stop drinking there they all are, and we have to learn better ways to cope with things. AA does help with 'tools'  for learning better social and coping skills.  Sounds like you've made a great beginning.  And you got some excellent feedback from folks here.


God bless you,


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Hello. Welcome. Congratulations on 5 days. (I remember counting minutes!) This is a great place for support. It was my lifeline just a few weeks ago. The AA's here have lots of good sobriety. Lots of inspiration. Hope for improving our lives. The 12 principles are such a great guide for doing a little better. Little by little. You will be able to change your Life into one that you Love. Join us often. Glad to hear from you. -paul

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Hi Candace


I managed 5 days up untill last sunday, after i got back from fishing i started drinking again..  ffs


yeah lots if diff emotions when i came off..  Fear, anxiety, happiness, sadness, grumpy, irritable, wired (bloody hell was i wired n fired up last saturday), kinda angry/frustrated at times..  Also the odd feelings that things didnt seem real.. like a strange dream.. I also felt panicy at times too.. well it would be coupled with the fear etc..  I guess its worse when  you feel like things arent realk, fear, anxiety, panic, all at the same time.. Feeling like i wanted to cry ... thats how i felt when i was on the beach in wales when i had just one day sober then, had two days that weekend then came home and drank..


I hope to be climbing back on the wagon very soon..  But its too early in the day to know how im gona be feeling later...


But welcome to the boards Candace...  Its been invaluable for me!  The support and information iv got from these boards is what helped me get to my first meeting.. What helped me make that phone call that got the ball rolling..  Actualy it was alot because of the people... my friends on here that i got sober last week...er.. well week before i guess..


So its good to see you on here.. Would love to see your posts on how you are doing etc..,.. Including the bad days.


Good luck... And congratulations and well done on 5 days so far! 


Rob



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Welcome and congrats on your sober time.


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Candace


Good morning to you. or good afternoon even, thanks for joining this forum and welcome, you are more than welcome to talk to us lot here, we have all been in a simular situation to you. I do not know what part of the world you live in but if your in the uk, A.A's number is in the first couple of pages and it would be a great idea to call them and perhaps get someone to meet you, they will not judge or tell you what to do, but if you want some advise on how to stay stopped, A.A is the only place I know that works. Nothing else worked for me and I 100% believe that if you want what we have which is SOBRIETY and a good quality of life, you can have it.


Hope to see you around, but my suggestion for today is to pick up the phone to someone who has been in your boots.


Rob



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Hi there the uk number for A.A is 0845 769 7555


FAQ's are all on the website: http://www.aa-gb.org.uk/


Many thanks and hope to see you about...


ROB



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