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Gms


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My sponsor said it is being self centered to think about forgiving yourself. I agreed to disagree with her. Anyone want to comment on this?

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Welcome to the forum, Gms.

I'd say forgiving oneself is being self-interested. Not self-centered.

Forgiveness is said to be necessary for sobriety. I believe it.



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I agree with the both of you. The funny thing is that I find it MUCH harder to forgive myself than forgive others. A tough road to travel, but worth it.

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I find that I am a lot happier, healthier and better at maintaining a positive attitude towards sobriety when I avoid the dark place of self-recrimination. When I'm not forgiving of myself I feel unworthy of a content peaceful life. I feel like I shouldn't have the good things that I'm striving to get sober for.



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I really struggled with this my first year ... After bringing this up with my sponsor, he asked me if I had gotten to the point of asking forgiveness from God? ... you know? like in do'n the steps? ... I said yes ... he said if I felt God forgave me, then what makes me think that I cannot forgive myself??? ... what makes me better than God??? ...

His point was made ... and from then on, I saw things differently ...



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When I did my 8th step, I didnt think of forgiving myself...my sponsor reminded me to add myself to the list....he was right....

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