I think that I suffer with stress and it has to be stopped, I cant seem to be able to relax and I am always anxious about things, I would say my career in business does not help too much, a lady said reiki is my answer today but I do not know if I believe in it!
Have you had a problem with stress? and how did you combat it? I always relied on a substance to relax me, I cant do that today
Stress ,Depression ,Anxiety and by alcohol until working the 12 steps of AA. It's a way of life and takes time. Keep posting. Have you been to any AA meetings ? AA will teach you how to lessen these symptoms.
Stress and anxiety are interwoven in my personality. They are bars to HP entering my life. They are blocks to my serenity. When I empower them, I lose my love of self and others. They become an excuse to not recover. It becomes a self pity thing very quickly.
I have learned that the BB says to "Take it easy." This gives me time to relax into the unknown. I am not able to control outcomes in my life. The control of the future has given me lack of focus in the now. The healing in my world comes from my willingness to let HP do the work. I turn it over and find peace. Our Program is a bountiful instruction manuel to change the way we look at life. And in the end, how I looked at life is the thinking problem that caused me grief and misery.
There are many ways to find calm time. I have pursued energy work, which includes Reiki. They all have something to offer. However, when I am grounded in the Proram, I find my greatest understanding. I know that I must move into pain to truly heal. I must embrace the unknown and accept that HP will get me through it. I must accept my life and the wrongs I have done. Then, just let them go.
I understand that I am a loving person with a purpose. The love and joy that I find for and in myself can blossum and spead to others. As I serve others, I get out of the "little me." I find myself in losing myself. You may read the prayer on p99 in the 12x12. I thihnk you may find the reading on p123-124 in the 12x12 helpful. These show a way to be and live which can bring hope and recovery. It is a simple Program for complicated people...Keep it simple. You are loved more than you know. I pray you will find out who you really are...
There are two days in every week about which we should not worry, two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.
One of these days is YESTERDAY with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. YESTERDAY has passed forever beyond our control.
All the money in the world cannot bring back YESTERDAY. We cannot undo a single act we performed; we cannot erase a single word we said. YESTERDAY is gone.
The other day we should not worry about is TOMORROW with its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise and poor performance. TOMORROW is also beyond our immediate control.
TOMORROW'S sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask of clouds - but it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in TOMORROW, for it is as yet unborn.
This leaves only one day - TODAY - Any person can fight the battles of just one day. It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternities – YESTERDAY and TOMORROW that we break down.
It is not the experience of TODAY that drives people mad - it is remorse or bitterness for something which happened YESTERDAY and the dread of what TOMORROW may bring.
Let us, therefore, live but one day at a time.
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Life is short..Live it sober to the fullest...One day at a time...
YES I HAVE BEEN TO A FEW MEETINGS. I HAVE ONE THIS EVENING. I AM SO PLEASED PEOPLE TALK TO ME IN HERE! ALL THESE YEARS OF KNOWING IM A BUM AND NOW YOU GUYS TREAT ME AS AN EQUAL.
HAVE TO DO POTS AND CLEAN UP NOW AS SPONCER COMING OVER! THEN I MIGHT BE ABLE TO PUT SOME MUSIC ON AND RELAX. I FORGOT FOR MANY YEARS THAT I LIKE MUSIC
Fear, will knock out any and all other emotions. I had a small health problem come up in the evening, and what did I do with it, let it get me into just being scared about it. Do have an appointment on Thursday.
So when I woke up this morning, that's all I could think about, me, me, me, Asked my Higher Power for some help, and am calming down. Direct Prayer is the only thing that can have a stronger power than this emotion. I call it stress, anxiety, but for me it is the emotion of Fear.
What if? What if? Taking action, washing clothes, forcing myself to think about a neighbor that has some Serious Health Problems.
Silence, shutting down my thinking. When I came into the Program, many years ago, when I no longer had the compulsion to drink, what came up for me Loud and Clear, was that I have a Thinking problem. So I am not going to be spending time on my PC today, so that I can be proactive in activities, to stay away from the stress I create when it is all about me, me, me.
Just getting it out, like I have right now, takes a lot of the Power out of my thinking. Looking at it from a different point view, I am Powerless over what happen, I am taking the steps to investigate, will look to my Doctor for advise and treatment.
Simple stuff. THE ONLY THING THAT WILL TAKE ME AWAY FROM ME, is DOING SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE ELSE.
hope you have a better afternoon, God Bless.
Toni
PS. As far as you thinking you were once a "bum", don't you know that God does not make Junk???
i have post traumatic stress syndrome, so stress is the biggest thing/ challenge for me..........i dont' cope like a healthier person would......so what do i do???
i CLING to the program
ditto with my Higher power
STEPS......
literature on managing my condition as best as i can
LOTS of sponser work (she has ptsd too)
lots of SELF talk..encouraging...
LOTS of journalling off the "dailys" and on my own
learning how to "head off" an anxiety/ ptsd attack and self talk me "down"
taking GOOD care of me phyiscally--diet--vitamins (vit b-complex, GABA)--excercise
rest, prayer meditation
LOTS of step 3......i show up for duty----than let HP handle outcome
thats what i do.....hope this helped,
OH, and as many meets and sharing on the boards as i can....
When I have stress and cleaning up to do - I put on the music that I feel like listening to at the time (usually something with a fairly fast pace) and I combine the three. My stress is somewhat relieved because my mind is occupied with the music, cleaning up and of coarse dancing around in the privacy of my own home. Just my input.
Later - Jeannie
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You only live once; but if you work it right, once is enough. There is nothing better than the encouragement of a good friend.
hahaha jb,,, I can see the smile on that dolphin face at the thought of 'coarse dancing'. btw I do the same thing. o coarse dancing works off some of that energy brought about by the stress and anxiety.
Francesco,,,, Reiki may be what your friend considers works,, but each person has their own path, really,,, and you must discover yours as you do Step 2 and 3.
God bless you all,
amanda
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do your best and God does the rest, a step at a time
Hey Hanuman. Restless, Irritable and Discontented? When I have asked my sponsor on this, he reminds me that we are AA's, and we are always going to feel that way to one degree or another, and only active participation in our steps, etc., will have much effect. Personally, I will meditate, pray, go to a meeting and help someone, no matter how "slightly". Usually, all three. Peace to you.-paul
I try to read when I'm under a lot of stress to relax me. Music is a good way to relax as well. I also talk to other's in the program to talk out my problems or stress until I feel better. The problems have not gone away,but at least stress of them has for a little while. I journal everyday too and that seems to help. Also I'm Bi-polar and have PTSD,just about anything can set me off. So knowing that I have to be careful about my stress triggers and keep myself out of situations that are going to cause me stress.
i have post traumatic stress syndrome, so stress is the biggest thing/ challenge for me..........i dont' cope like a healthier person would......so what do i do??? i CLING to the program ditto with my Higher power STEPS...... literature on managing my condition as best as i can LOTS of sponser work (she has ptsd too) lots of SELF talk..encouraging... LOTS of journalling off the "dailys" and on my own learning how to "head off" an anxiety/ ptsd attack and self talk me "down" taking GOOD care of me phyiscally--diet--vitamins (vit b-complex, GABA)--excercise rest, prayer meditation LOTS of step 3......i show up for duty----than let HP handle outcome thats what i do.....hope this helped, OH, and as many meets and sharing on the boards as i can....
what is gabba, I have been told that we need to take care of our bodies but do not know where to start.
When I have stress and cleaning up to do - I put on the music that I feel like listening to at the time (usually something with a fairly fast pace) and I combine the three. My stress is somewhat relieved because my mind is occupied with the music, cleaning up and of coarse dancing around in the privacy of my own home. Just my input. Later - Jeannie
I tried that, and yes it works , i got a new dancy type cd and put it on- god it felt good to be alive !
