Sounds like O.C.D.

Hi Phill

Im ok ta.. tired ..  Still in my dressing gown at mo (2:15 pm)..lol iv been online most of the day.. apart from bath and food..  Might have to get back in bed soon.. see if i can have kip..   Duno bout later..

Theres a meetin at 7 tonight.. might go.. duno..

Hows you?

Hi Robert,

Well my sister was just like that, she raised two children, and her house was never, ever out of order,  never any dishes in the sink, no dust anywhere,   I raised two children too, and was constantly trying to stay on top of the messiness of life, and did not alway succeed.

When I would visit my sister, and i did so very very ofter,  If I ever sat down, to drink a cup of coffee, and I did hundreds of times, when I was finished with my coffee, and my cigarette, and if I got up from the chair, or just was not paying attention to something,  the coffee cup was washed and in the cupboard, and the ashtray was washed and put away.      Never understood it,  But on the plus side, I envied it, because there was a great feeling of order to it too.  Pluses and minuses of life. Felix and Oscar stuff. It does have some humor to it.  You could maybe get some copies of those old flicks about Felix and Oscar, The Odd Couple, and just have some laughs.

I still have to work at having an orderly feeling in my house, I make messes and really dont want to deal with them immidently,

Once when I was joking with a Therapist, about Hating Housework, she looked at me very seriously and said,  When you take good care of your surroundings, making your bed, fluffing a pillow,  that is the most NURTURING thing that you can do for yourself.   So it did change my prospective somewhat.

Sometimes when I force myself to look at work, I do not WANT to do,  I say to myself, Change you mind about how you feel about this.  Try looking at it as SOMETHING you Do WANT to do.

And it changes my presceptive just enough to get it done without the UGH to it.  It works for me.  I get to that balance place.

Have a good day,

And something I learned a long time ago, when I was stuggling with something (anything really) I was asked to try and look at it from the prescective of, "if I did not drink today, then Today was really Perfect.   Without any problems,  I practiced that a lot, and did succeed is shutting up the Committee in my head, so many times. 

Bye now, Toni

Amanda,

Bar of soap on the table, Made me laugh out loud.  i had this piece of tile that broke off in a bathroom and rather than get some glue and repair it, Someone asked me once, why was it just laying on the floor,  i told them it was a "Still life"    HaHa.

Maybe your soap could me a "still life"   Face it, they are unique.

Good Laugh,  I moved into my house 8 months ago, and when I bought some furniture, for my dining room, a cabinet, for misc. stuff, the boxes are still sitting there, not unpacked, and they are in a corner so most people dont see them, and I look at them, and just let the box ask the question,  where are you????

Progress, not perfection.

I am almost tempted to put a bar of soap on my dining room table.  One thing I came up with the other day, when I was feel real "uptight" inside about getting things done, I said to myself, why not try to let life just flow, easy, just flowing,  not requirements, easy does it to all the stress i can get into,  and my question for the day, is Ritorical, why should the soap be someone else???      Some of us are still sicker than others,  and Yes I guess I am raising my hand, reluctantly.

have a good day.

One thing that Does work,  Is if I apply this.   Ask God to help me unpack this Box,  it is the only way I can get it done,  His Force will be greater than my own Resistance.  Just have not done that yet.  Maybe today would be a good day, since the topic is Front and Center.

Have a good day, and I have the same Sissor Problem, have had that all my life, under what?

Toni

Maybe I shouldnt be Posting this, but it is the TRUTH

 

 

Just come home from the cafe at a nature reserve, had lunch with my partner and fed the ducks, we are going for a curry this eve. it seems to have worked out ok...

Hey Robert,

I found, that when I compulsively tidy up (not the normal housework thingee), it's because I'm feeling control issues---I don't feel like I have control, or I feel like there are some things out of control in my life, and the house? I have control over. It's like "making manifest what I need psychologically". My now adult kids laugh, because they can tell when I've got something going on inside by watching how I clean house. The external tidiness compensates for the internal chaos. Make sense? It's like, when my house is tidy, that means my thinking will be tidy. I am a reflexion of my surroundings type of thinking. Yeah, it's sick, but when it happens it's a red flag that I've got something to sit down and deal with. I have stacks and stacks of books, notebooks, writings, next to my chair. I allow myself that certain amount of chaos. Actually, it is much better than it was. I remember the days(nights) when I'd be up at 3 a.m. quietly cleaning house while the rest of the family slept. I sure don't do that anymore.

Rob, I have to ask. What in the name of the gods is in that bowl picture by your name? I can't decide whether to gag at it or not.....love Wren

You're right! It's a smily face, made from rotten eggs in a puke green bowl, LOL.

Wren wrote:

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, I have to ask. What in the name of the gods is in that bowl picture by your name? I can't decide whether to gag at it or not.....love Wren

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I am not quite sure as to what you mean?

Under Rob's name, where the logo is? There is what looks like a bowl with black eggs swimming in it, sort of a smiley face. I've looked at it a dozen times, and cannot for the life of me figure out what it is, LOL. Only that it doesn't look very good........Wren

Robert wrote:

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we now have steak HP rather than the anteater

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Lol. you got HP sauce and I got Marmite.. lol.. sharing uk food & condiments with usa.

LMAO..

Well lets just say its very savoury.. not sweet and has a harsh taste/tang to it.. lol.. .. Thus the love or hate thing about it.. lol.. actualy i dont love or hate it.. but i do like it.. .. Actualy cheese and marmite sandwhiches are great!!.. I had a couple yesterday..  Especialy with a packet of cheese n onion crisps on the side.. (crips... - potato chips in usa)

Lol.. but each to their own..

haha .. marble.. i like it.. granite.. marmite.. etc.. lol.. . Yeah never thought of it but yeah i can now see how that might be a good name for some sort of diy product.. lol..

 

-- Edited by Rob at 14:14, 2006-04-01

LOL, sounds like a form of mustard I guess. Geez, after that description of sandwiches and chips, you have to know, I have no desire to fly to England and kiss you. Yeast, cheese, onion, great gods, makes my eyes water to think about, LOL.

We've gone abit off subject havent we..

Sorry Robert.. no disrespect meant..  I do really hope you partner is ok and things with you both are alright..

Smell my Marmite

HEY LOOK WHAT I FOUND! NOT AS GOOD AS YOURS THOUGH

 

Too funny!! Well, I was wondering what was in the jar too,,, but didn't want to ask,,,  now I got really very curious and looked it up.  Here's a link for us Americans on what Marmite is:

http://www.accomodata.co.uk/marmite.htm

actually I do think we use yeast extract too,,, but it is usually an ingredient in other things, and not plain.  I have some food restrictions and have to read ingredients, and I know I've seen it:

http://www.abfingredients.com/?page=page&view=15

Yeast extracts are used as natural flavour enhancers in many foods; they offer a very natural way of intensifying and rounding the natural flavour.

"Yeast products can be used for a wide range of applications:

Flavouring Yeast extracts can be used across the entire flavouring area. Products are equally suitable for premixing in the condiment and snack area and for the traditional application areas in soups, sauces and the ready-cooked meals. "

HP is a real thing, too?  I thought that was an A-1 Steak Sauce bottle with HP on it for a joke. Well,,  we'll have to find some American things to get you guys with, too.
gee, now I'm getting hungry

love in recovery,

amanda

-- Edited by amanda2u2 at 01:30, 2006-04-02

Well........I think I'll go with the thiamine. The more I look at that "interesting" concoction, the more I feel like I'd rather get eaten by mosquitos. I really should try to find some over here, look on a search engine and see if it's available in the states. I just don't know what to tell myself it is to get myself to eat it. I could fake out my kids, but can't fake myself out anymore. I remember in junior high, a guy I knew took a tbs. of yeast a day to clear up his acne......

Glad I did the shopping today, now I have to go get some ho hos or something. I don't have to pretend to like them...........................wren

 

I just found a place in new york that sells it and got the #. I mean, after reading the web site (thanks Amanda!) and it oh-so-cool 50's advertising and everything, I decided, I must give this a try. And then I won't have to worry so much about malaria.....nighty night, Wren

-- Edited by Wren at 03:34, 2006-04-02

Marmite is a good way to make sure your dog or partner does not nick your toast