"We think it dangerous if he rushes headlong at his economic problem. The family will be affected also, pleasantly at first, as they feel their money troubles are about to be solved, then not so pleasantly as they find themselves neglected. Dad may be tired at night and preoccupied by day. He may take small interest in the children and may show irritation when reproved for his delinquencies. If not irritable, he may seem dull and boring, not gay and affectionate as the family would like him to be."
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS - THE FAMILY AFTERWARD
As I progressed through my recovery, I was fortunate to have good sponsorship. When I opened my company in 1993, my children were 11 and 7. I was in a terrible predicament, with a new business and 2 children who needed my constant attention. But looking back, I see how those were the most wonderful years. We had 1 car and no telephone, God helped us to build that company. We sat around the fire or spent nights at the beach fishing, with other families who were also in recovery. Thank God, it was business, fellowship and family time. Everything got balanced according to God's plan. Today, I am at home with my daughter on her 34th birthday and my darling grandson Timothy. I have no desire for anything else. These are the fruits of my labour and I am thoroughly enjoying them. Thank you God.
God Bless you and your family Gonee, especially after the trials of losing a child not so long ago ... and thank you for teaching us what 'Faith, Hope and Love' means, not only for those of us in recovery, but for all who have come to know you ... ... ... oh, and Happy Birthday to your daughter ...
Love you Brother, and God Bless, Pappy
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
I almost typed out a scathing response out of jealousy. Irreparable harm was done to my family and it is a case of permanent seperation.
I am happy for your happiness and the only reason I am submitting this is to serve as a stark reminder or warning shot.
The void from this kind of damage will be with me for eternity.
Hi ,
Your story is heartwarming, I am an alcoholic and my father was an alcoholic of epic proportions, he however through his denial was a nature man , he completely through out the nurture aspect of parenting, I suppose he did this to alleviate his guilt. I still loved him to his dying day but when I look back on my life , I often wonder what it would if been like to have 2 non alcoholic parents. I am trying to keep my life focused on caring for my two kids and sobriety
