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Deskdad


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Hi everyone. I''m an alcoholic. I came to this realization 3 years ago (I'm 43) and have been battling it since. I have come close to losing everything - job, kids, money, relationships. Got into some legal trouble. Hoping to receive and offer some advice and support. Day one starts again today. Longest I've went was too weeks.
 
I'm tired of waking up broke and having no idea what I did the night before. - being scared to look at my phone.  Tired of lying and blaming - making excuses.


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Hi Deskdad. Welcome. So what have you tried in the past to treat your alcoholism?

How did it work (or not work)?

Do you have any experience with Alcoholics Anonymous?



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Hello Shawn , I have Not had to do that in over Twenty yrs . Thanks to AA . Shawn , from DAY 1 . My life started to change & for the Better.

I was told to "Keep it simple" , NOT Pick up The 1st drink & Got 90 AA meetings in 90 days . If after the 90 days I wanted to drink again .

I Could have ALL my misery Refunded . If you have read some of the other posts on this forum , like I did before I joined , you may have read,

what happens to alcoholics when they drink & When they relapse & drink Again . Shawn this is Not to scare you . Fear will NOT Stop an

alcoholic from drinking . If you have got this far You Need to get help Now . Do what we are Doing . Don't pick up that 1st drink . And GO to a

meeting of Alcoholics Anonymous.



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Welcome to MIP DeskDad, ... Glad you're here ...

Two weeks without a drink is a long time ... that tells me you can go 'today' without a drink ... and you 'can' start tomorrow the same way ...

AA worked for me, but I was a hard headed S.O.B. and kept try'n to do things my way ... it never worked ... I could only get sober and be happy at the same time by sticking with AA ... At first I didn't like it, I hated it, but damn if it didn't work and now I love my life and wouldn't change a thing ... you are welcome to have that too ... Please join us ...


Love ya man and God Bless,
Pappy



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Welcome.


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Welcome to MIP!

Stick around,,WE need you...:)  smilesmile

 



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Yes we all get tired and the disease senses if we still have some margin that it can work in so it can take us out.  I'm grateful I got more tired of drinking and then getting into using than from going to meetings, reading the literature, getting a sponsor, doing the 90X90 and getting into service.  I love to watch newcomers become miracles.  They do what is shown to them by the old timers and then become, one day at a time, an old timer themselves.   Keep coming back one day at a time that is how we work this.   smile



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Thanks, all. Very inspiring. I've been 'dabbling' in AA meetings, off and on for 3 years, but honestly, just half-assing it. I am hoping I get serious enough and get sick enough of the disease to make it stick.



-- Edited by Deskdad on Wednesday 25th of May 2016 10:51:58 AM

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Deskdad wrote:

Thanks, all. Very inspiring. I've been 'dabbling' in AA meetings, off and on for 3 years, but honestly, just half-assing it. I am hoping I get serious enough and get sick enough of the disease to make it stick.



-- Edited by Deskdad on Wednesday 25th of May 2016 10:51:58 AM

 Hi Deskdad.

I tried that kind of approach to trying to get sober too at first and I didn't have success with it either. In fact it was a disaster. What finally worked for me (and what has worked for a whole lot of other people too) was to commit to going to a lot of AA meetings, especially at first - 90 meetings in 90 days. And to look for a good AA sponsor in those meetings who had several years of sobriety and lots of experience with the 12 steps, and who had the kind of sobriety in his life that I wanted in my own life. And asking this person to help me work the 12 steps, and taking their suggestions and doing what they had done. This approach made all the difference for me. I got sober and STAYED sober and my whole life has changed for the better. I hope you find what I have found.

 



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You are aware that our disease if not treated is fatal?  Alcoholism will take it all within a half-assed attitude and then...you already know that.  The love affair is strong isn't it?  Build a library of AA literature and start reading it while going to meetings.   confuse



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Yes Shawn , it looks like you are like most of us , a survivor . You could ask yourself Shawn . Which drink is going to take my mind?

"To the gates of insanity and hell" , yes the "oldtimers" knew that back when the Big Book was written , but we can only survive so

much , before we go round the twist , usually a twist that Can't be straightened . As I said earlier Shawn . Fear of death Or insanity,

will Not stop us from drinking . Yes we all need it . But you have to WANT this .

Shawn . I Hope You find That WANT , real soon.



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From Chapter Five(How it Works) in the BigBook.

'Half Measures availed us nothing. We stood at the turning point.'

If this is where you are then I suggest you get serious about recovery, otherwise Alcohol will kill you.
The OldTimers who wrote the book were not F(n)Kidding. :)

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Deskdad wrote:

Thanks, all. Very inspiring. I've been 'dabbling' in AA meetings, off and on for 3 years, but honestly, just half-assing it. I am hoping I get serious enough and get sick enough of the disease to make it stick.



-- Edited by Deskdad on Wednesday 25th of May 2016 10:51:58 AM

 Oh man, ... I did too, but for 13 years ... nearly died as a result ... when I came back the last time, in '08, I decided to stay and do 'ANYTHING' to get and stay sober ... I was about to lose everything and was in sight of my new home under a bridge somewhere ... 

It doesn't happen overnight and initially you'll crave be'n back with your old friend King Alcohol, but work'n the AA way was THE best decision I ever made ... and if you decide to join us, I KNOW that you'll feel the same way in a relatively short period of time .... try it and if you decide it's not for you, and want your old buddy back, all your pain and suffer'n will be returned to you ... double ... 

Your choice ... I 'been there, done that' ... I hope you make the right decision ... 

 

Pappy



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Thanks all for your honesty. Yes, I want it. I started going back to meeting and will give the 90-90 my all. Found the Big Book online and have been reading it. i want to be happy again.

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Awesome. Hey keep us posted and let us know how it's going, okay? If there's anything we can do to help, or if you have any questions about any of it, just ask. 



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Good job Shawn, ...

Same here as Dave said, if there's anything we can help with, just ask ...



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Thanks for everything.  Peace and Love on your journey.  
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