Hi all
I am new to the A.A.thing.
I am struggling. I live with a severe alcoholic and never considered myself an alcoholic till this year. I cant escape alcohol and its always around me and I totally at a loss. Ive been with my husband for 11 years and this past year his drinking has led me to drink which has led my body to crave alcohol when i dont have it. Now Im not at everyday point or drinking and missing work but i could get there if i dont stop. I joined a gym 1 year ago and i never touched a sip of alcohol for 10 months, but when he got worse it was more than i could handle and so easy for me to turn to alcohol to make it go away, but now im down this road again. I just need some advice or help and if anyone had gone threw thi? I dont know who to turn to im so ashamed of myself and im only enabliing my spouse by being like this. Any help or advice would be helpful. Thanks for.your time.
Welcome Canadian Dreamer.... I know from my own experiences that it is extremely difficult to stop drinking when you are living with another alcoholic. Although it is not impossible. If you really want to stop drinking you can do it. AA helped me get off of it for a little over a couple of years. I got back into the drinking because I wasn't doing everything I could do to not drink. The person I live with has managed to stay sober, however, despite my relapsing. I think it is great that you came here for support. This board has really been helpful for me. I think also that Al-Anon has been very helpful for some folks as well and they have a pretty good online site on MIP.
There will be some more members to answer you. There are some really awesome people on this board.
-- Edited by leavetherest on Monday 25th of April 2016 07:38:22 PM
Yup, ditto everything that LeaveTheRest said. Get to some Alcoholics Anonymous meetings right away to deal with your drinking problem, and get to some Alanon meetings right away to learn how to deal with the other alcoholic in your life. Do not try to do this alone. Help is available for you, go get it.
If you want any help finding meetings, just let us know where you are and someone here should be able to help.
Ive been to al anon actually and have been going for a while tho I just feel like I am a hypocrite for being there as most people are just there cause of people drinking. Im thankful for your response as I feel so alone as no one I know can relate. Also I live in the east coast of canada which they glorify drinking down here :| instead of being offered coffee or water or pop as soon as u enter the door they offer you beer. Ugh :(
Yes, I went to an Al-Anon meeting and quite a few people that I have seen in AA were also in the Al-Anon meetings. It has been suggested to me that I should attend Al-Anon meetings on a regular basis. I didn't and it isn't because I felt like a hypocrite--it is because I was/am lazy.
I see you've been given some helpful tips already ... I was just a 'hard core' alcoholic that caused most the problems in my family's life ... AA helped me to put all that in the past ... now I live a very satisfying, sober life ... and AA can help you do the same ... stick with us and we'll lead you in the right direction ...
Love ya and God Bless, Pappy
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Hi all I am new to the A.A.thing. I am struggling. I live with a severe alcoholic and never considered myself an alcoholic till this year. I cant escape alcohol and its always around me and I totally at a loss. Ive been with my husband for 11 years and this past year his drinking has led me to drink which has led my body to crave alcohol when i dont have it. Now Im not at everyday point or drinking and missing work but i could get there if i dont stop. I joined a gym 1 year ago and i never touched a sip of alcohol for 10 months, but when he got worse it was more than i could handle and so easy for me to turn to alcohol to make it go away, but now im down this road again. I just need some advice or help and if anyone had gone threw thi? I dont know who to turn to im so ashamed of myself and im only enabliing my spouse by being like this. Any help or advice would be helpful. Thanks for.your time.
