A controller doesn't trust his/her ability to live through the pain and chaos of life. There is no life without pain just as there is no art without submitting to chaos. --Rita Mae Brown
It is very hard for most of us to see how controlling we are. We may feel uptight or careful, but we haven't seen it as controlling ourselves or controlling how people respond to us. We may be worried about a loved one's behavior or safety, but not realize our hovering over that person is a controlling activity. We may be keenly aware of other people's controlling behavior with us, but unaware we have equaled their control by monitoring them and trying to change their behavior.
What a moment of spiritual adventure it is to risk living through the pain! When we do not seek an escape or a quick fix but have patience with the process, new possibilities often do develop. We can only let go of our control - or turn it over to our Higher Power. And we will do it and forget, taking control back within minutes or within an hour. Then we let go again.
Today, I will submit to the insecurity of a changing universe and have faith that I can live through the process and grow.
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
Nice message here Paps! While inventorying my character, it became apparent how controlling I was and often taken over God's job. In the turnaround it asks us where we were: selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and afraid. Once recognized, I found I had to surrender these handicaps over to a power greater than myself. I learned that I was powerless over most things- people, places and things. What a relief it is when I can turn over all the results and outcomes to a power greater than myself and trust he/she has it all covered. It works quite well. Let go- Let God & Live and Let Live come to mind.