. . . we have some unfinished business between us.
When we respond to the small signals that something is amiss, we prevent bigger problems. When we feel fear in our relationship, it signals that we have some unfinished business between us. When we ask the questions we have been avoiding, we create new possibilities for resolution. Our fear is a signal that something does not feel safe. If we tell ourselves that our fear is illogical and discount it, or if we overreact by totally pulling out of the situation, we miss opportunities to change it.
What a relief we feel as we make sense out of our fear and begin to talk with each other. We let go of secrets between us and work toward mutual understanding. As we communicate, the knot in our stomach loosens and light reappears in our relationship.
Name the signals your body gives you to indicate that something in your relationship needs attention.
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
What an awesome post, Pappy. That'd be me. I thought after I finished doing my steps that my life would be so great. When little things still have bothered me, which have turned into bigger things because I LET THEM...it has forced me to go back and rethink what I did wrong...what resentment(s) I need to work on...what amends I need to make. I have learned that I tend to hold onto some things from the past like an old security blanket. Once I work through these, I can put them behind me...my choice to cling to them, my choice to let them go and let God have them.
-- Edited by betterthanyesterday52 on Sunday 18th of May 2014 09:27:19 AM
When something is wrong between myself and another person, I feel a lack of peace inside myself, and I feel myself tighten up physically. In sobriety, I learned that I can change that by getting honest with myself, and then making amends for the harm I've done. Honesty, openness, and willingness is always the antidote for what ails my mind, body, and spirit.
