At one time about 12yrs ago I was the good supportive non abusive husband, good father, not battling depression. Life was grand. But alcohol changed all that. It took everything. I can be that person again only better but without the alcohol this time. Trudging the road to happy destiny they call it. It's gonna come through the steps and take patience. It's not gonna be easy. Today's boundary is avoid all contact with Rose. Since God allows this I guess this is what he wants for me at the moment. Praying to have a better day even though I know I haven't fully grieved for her and will most likely do it for quite some time. Want more out of live don't want to settle for less on how I treat myself and others.š
Hi Enigma! Sounds like a solid perspective to me. Pray and keep moving your feet. Get/stay in the middle of The Program. It's harder to get picked off that way.
I'm trying. I need to change with or without my wife. I would still prefer with the wife. I hope she considers time apart before permanent divorce she was hinting at it We'd. But now seems pissed and confused again. I have no control over this giving it to God.
It takes time to earn the 'trust' back in situations like this Enigma ... I had tried and failed to stay sober so many times, it took at least 2 years before my wife trusted me not to be drunk when she got home ... and when the 'trust' from her did come, it was an amazing thing to feel ... 'keep on truck'n' ... stay sober no matter what ... work the program daily ... the trust will return ...
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
The change you're looking for can only come from God. As we work all of the 12 Steps, we reach out to Him and receive His Grace. If you're at Step Nine, please don't dawdle! Get it done! Blessings, Mike D.
