Philipld...that's one of the real living definition of sucks!! Been there and done that and worked the same solution you are working now with one added step...try n ot to replace the one that left until I spent ample time it learning self love...I can duplicate on the sick side of insanity if I don't do that one. Keep coming back and hang with the winners still.
Philipld....9 years???? Wow, that's tough and my heart goes out to you. Will be going through that one day myself and will watch for your postings to see how you are getting through it.
Thank you for sharing that with me, Philipld....look at you, trying to help me when you are dealing with so much right now. I am very grateful and appreciative. I will keep you in my thoughts and want only the best for you. I know it is painful.
((((philipld))))) and
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Hang in theire Phil. Even though it's a "coda" thought, when I had break ups in sobriety, it did help for me to envision the next one being better in every way shape and form LOL. Chin up!
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Keep coming back. It works if you work it. So work it. You're worth it!
Relationships are also one day at a time. If we treat them that way, be grateful for that day and have no expectations for tomorrow, then it's easier to deal with. All relationships are going to end, someone is going to die first. If I keep that in the front of my mind I will be prepared for that day. Either one of us could wake up tomorrow and say It's been real and fun but I wish to be somewhere else now, and the other should thank them for the time spent and be wishing them well. Sure they'll be missed, but the shame, blame, and all the other negative feeling are caused by expectations.
-- Edited by StPeteDean on Saturday 22nd of February 2014 04:55:09 PM
