Had requested prayers for my daughter last weeked after seeing a post she'd made on Facebook that bothered me. She had been going over posts on FB when one caught her eye about another girl she'd went through InHouse rehab. with. Daughter made a call and indeed what she'd read was correct, the girl had passed. Was found dead alone in her apt. I did not find this out until Tues/Weds. when I happened to see daughter at a local convience store. She brought it up and apologized for not telling me sooner.
This woman had been in and out of rehab. the last time being with my daughter. (She liked my AD and another.) Rumors flew after they parted ways that she had went out almost instantly upon release from the program. The 3 kept in contact, however, AD stopped the face to face because she feared when she was around her and could smell the alcohol, it would lead her as well back out. AD and other friend had made several attempts to get her back in program. She never returned although she would agree to. Other friend did keep going and check on her, ran errands ect. and would keep AD updated. Most recently, it was learned she had began drinking just about everything with alcohol in it. (That is sad in itself to me.)
Her family is scattered across the US. Not sure if they just don't care or couldn't afford a service, but there was/is none. Her body is still at morgue, because it was implied foul play may have happened. AD stated she also had a fascination for meeting men via internet and then meeting them face to face. She had been warned to be VERY cautious doing this.
AD has handled it very well. She accepts the fact, she could only do so much for her. The rest had to be this woman's choice. She was saddened, yes, that she died but does not regret she could not help her. In her words, "Have to work my program and take care of me first." In fact that evening when this was all relayed AD was heading to her reg. meeting.
I was saddened too although I knew nothing about her previous to this. Alcohol took another life that was born with health and potential. It robbed of a potential healthy relationship with the possibility of marriage and kids. And even in death it seems no one will celebrate anything good about her. From what I understood, she loved to draw and was fairly talented. A possible career that alcohol had now laid to rest. She touched my daughter's life. Ironic isn't it how one's lifestyle/end could only reinforce and strenghten another who is in AA.
I'm ever so grateful my HP continues to hear my pleas/prayers that my daughter will continue to stay strong, work her program, and attend meetings. SHE has to do the work and make the choice to stay sober. I understand this. Prayers are my most powerful aid to help her. I love her beyond words!
It's tragic...But also fact...That for us to drink is to die. I've seen enough of it...Even in my own family. Sounds like your daughter has a good grasp of what is going on. I'm glad to hear that. Keep doing what you're doing learning.
Aloha W and ((((hugs)))) on the occasion. My first info about alcoholism was that it was an incurable disease and that the alcoholic had but 3 choices...sobriety, insanity or death. I had to get use to the last two choices if I was to keep hanging in the program. It does affect everything and one it comes into contact with and many die as a result. Good for your daughter cause her chances are better.
