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Standing_Tall


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Have not been around in a while and wanted to let you all know how I was doing.............

Honestly, last Saturday, I relapsed. As you can imagine, I am very disappointed in myself for being weak and not following the program on that specific day like I had been. On a positive note, my wife appears to be a little more supportive than she has been in the past. Don't know if that is because there are court dates looming and I will not give her the 'deal' that she wants or is it authentic. All I can do right now is pick myself up and start doing the right thing again, just for today.

Again, yes I am disappointed, but I have to get back to working hard........



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Standing Tall,
Good for you coming right back! That does show a lot of honesty and acceptance. It's all ok. I sure have had several of my own relapses and let embarrassment and shame keep me out longer. I beat up on myself for months, years about relapsing all the while having a drink in my hand to "make me feel better" (LOL). If this were an easy program there wouldn't be a need for this site or at least not as many postings like yours and mine.
Again, good for you! And I look forward to seeing your postings as they are helping keep me sober.

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In the chapter to wives there is an interesting commentary on drinking again. Either God has removed the desire to drink or not. It says to work on the spiritual program to gain victory.



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Where are you on your stepwork ST?....The thing that I noticed when I studied the directions for those steps....Was that most of the promises that I REALLY wanted to happen came right after or even during step 9. We will be amazed before we are even half way through. There is a reason for that...Our solution is to clear the wreckage that's blocking us from God....Steps 7 through 9 is where we do that. That's pretty simple huh?....I'd suggest you get busy. See to it that your relationship with Him/Her is right.....Glad you make it back. Too many don't.



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Glad you made it back ST ... many don't ... and I'd say most of us never 'get it' on the first try either, or the 2nd, or the .... well, you get the picture ... we are a 'hard-headed' lot ...



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Thanks for coming back with honesty and humility. That's really something I respect in you. So can you do a 90x90 now???

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After I drank again around day 40 - I came back and doing a 90x90 was the ticket to the freedom train for me. That and working the steps right away...

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justadrunk wrote:

After I drank again around day 40 - I came back and doing a 90x90 was the ticket to the freedom train for me. That and working the steps right away...

 Yes, I can do a 90x90.......Just what my sponsor suggested as well..........



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Great - I also committed to posting here every day during that time and that helped a TON. Some days it was just - "Hi I'm here and grateful to be sober" but I got really connected here, and made a lot of close virtual friendships that I still have to this day. I hope you will consider doing this - PLUS - you'll have a little sort of online journal to look back on of your journey and growth, and it will be cool to go back and look to see how far you've come in one year - 2 etc. I know I for one would love to 'see' your adventure!

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Honesty is what it's all about. You're pointing yourself in the right direction.

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Glad you're here, StandingTall. Keep in touch with us. I love Tasha's idea.

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You are victorious simply by being honest. Pg 58 of the book indicates this.


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How are you doing today?



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In my early days, the only thing I did right was "keep coming back".  Then one day the message of AA washed over me, and I stayed.

I am a alcoholic.  I have alcoholISm... it will never become alcoholWASism.

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Yes - Joe - I was wondering that too... how are you doing today ST?

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"How OUR experience can benefit others"

I believe , we also look as if WE are the others . YES

Looking at Myself as if I am the 'others' . I mentioned something like that

th other day "so what , I survived this & worse before sobriety , get over it & get on with it"

seems a bit of 'tough love' , when we Need or want nurturing . I agree , but -

"When the going gets tough , the Tough Get going"

Some times  - We Have to change our "self talk" . more importantly .

Listen to our own "self talk"

Thank you ST for your honesty .

Did you give yourself a 'pat on th back' & thank yourself .

Your own "self honesty" , "To thine own Self , be true"



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Just a quick update........today is Thanksgiving and I have a LOT to be thankful for! First and foremost......I am SOBER, am spending the holiday with my family, and the great fellowship of brothers and sisters that are supporting me alone the way!! Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!

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Oh, that is WONDERFUL news, Standing Tall! Happy Thanksgiving to you, too. So glad you posted. I checked this posting several times yesterday and was wondering how you are doing. This put a big smile on my face!

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That is great news!

It is a day by day thing. I hope you enjoy the day.

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Right now I'm in a treestand lol....so far so good :)!



-- Edited by Standing_Tall on Thursday 28th of November 2013 10:43:02 AM

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Hard to get in trouble there....Keep moving forward and have a great Thanksgiving ST! Call your sponsor and wish him the same.

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Xxxx

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Thanksgiving is a great time to reminisce about the things we can be grateful for ... in AA, I've learned to start my morning prayers every day with gratitude ... then on with pleas for help through the coming day to finish my prayers ... this works well for me, and my sponsees have indicated that this daily routine works for them as well ...



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Not much to say about that.....except for one thing:  When you start working the 12 Steps you'll stop relapsing.  Glad you're back.  We've all had our troubles early on.  Mike D.



-- Edited by Mike D on Monday 2nd of December 2013 07:55:39 PM

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