My son always sits outside the bathroom and watches me fix my hair and put on my mascara and lip gloss. One day last week, we were in a hurry, and I dashed to do my ritual with him on my tail. As I was working on it, he said "Mama, why do you put all that beauty stuff on, you're so beautiful without it... even more beautiful!"
I just about cried.
He told me later in the week that my teeth were getting yellow - so I know he still has that childish honesty- and that comment- made is earlier comment- even more powerful, and I teared up for real.
*** To give this relevance to an AA forum - I will say that since I have found recovery 16 months ago - my skin is glowing, and I finally do look healthy again... maybe even beautiful to some : ) This program shows me where to look for true beauty, the kind that can't wrinkle or turn yellow
Do I love you because you're beautiful Or are you beautiful because I love you? Oscar Hammerstein
Once, a powerful king agreed to help a small, lost boy find his mother. Since the boy described his mother as the most beautiful woman in the world, the king commanded all the beautiful women in the kingdom to come to the castle.
From miles around, they came - women with complexions of porcelain and hair of spun gold, with cheeks the color of apricots and eyes as dark as the raven's. But none of them was the boy's mother. When the last of the women had paraded before them, and the king and the boy had begun to despair, they heard a timid knock on the door. "Come in," the king said wearily. In shuffled an old washerwoman, her grey hair tied up in a kerchief, her hands rough and red, her dress coarse and patched.
"Mother!" the boy cried when he saw her, and he leapt from his chair and raced into the woman's arms. The king stared in amazement.
Will I be able to see the real beauty in others today?
Okay, ... ... ... you did it to me again ... I could not help myself from tearing up too ... crap, I hate when that happens!!!
All I can say at this moment, is that since being in recovery, my emotional episodes are more to deal with love, joy, and happiness now ... more so than with the old emotional breakdowns over guilt, shame, and humiliation ...
Tasha, ... you, more than anyone else to date, have stirred me more with tears of your survival and progress in this program than anyone else I can think of ... I wish I could reach through this computer screen and give you a great big ((((HUG)))) ... (of course when your husband is out of the house ... LOL)
Love you always and God Bless you, Pappy
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
When I drank I could not and did not feel the emotions from stories like this that I do now. Am I better off? Is it better than feeling nothing at all? And then too I did have one deep feeling back then...Deadness. Thanks Tasha that is emotionally beautiful. ((((hugs))))
Beautiful post, thanks for sharing!! I remember not being present in my own life, that presence is back again!! Now, almost any emotional tug that has to do with children makes me tear up. I am grateful that AA and places like MIP gave me back the ability to be the husband and father I was meant to be. I cherish the interaction on a daily basis, even when they are being challenging!! Lord knows I was challenging and still am at times!!