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justadrunk


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Everyone has gone through periods of letting anger rule them... in fact - since I have a 6 & 4 yr old, It's fresh in my mind, that throwing tantrums and being completely ruled by 'upset' and anger is a normal stage in life - at 2 - and again at 7... with varying degree's from person to person, and it's always within us - it's just a matter of being taught to handle ourselves, and how to think things through - hopefully by a role model who is capable... we are lucky to have that available in our fellowship. 

I see people (I am one of them) who was never taught, and was still throwing teenage tantrums and adult ones as well. I was 33 when I had my last temper tantrum - no wait - 34 - I had one last Friday for no real reason other than the same simple ones that 2 yr olds often have them - hungry & tired & over stimulated.

Pretty basic human stuff. Now it's time to forgive yourself and choose something positive to focus on... can you help someone today?

There isn't a human with an active developed brain alive who hasn't been through this. Take some deep breaths.... work the steps... all of them : ) My whole family knows how to work the 12 steps on the most tiny of tantrums these days... even the little ones.... it's so simple, so inspiring - yet so hard in the moment, but it's okay Dori... you are so loved just the way you are.



-- Edited by justadrunk on Monday 20th of May 2013 07:52:46 PM

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Is our own worst enemy.  We have had problems with our air conditioner. I have had a store out to fix it and things are still not fixed. Am I angry? I could be if

I wanted to be. Things happen.  People make errors. My point what does Anger do for us? 

Anger does nothing for me.  Anger hurts me.  

 

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I think the thing to remember is that it's part of life - and that it's a natural and perfectly normal thing to feel as we are human with a wide range of emotions (thank God). I try not to get angry at myself for being angry like I used to... that's a starting point for me, and it does also help to peel back layers and distract myself with better thinking : )

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Yes you are right. But I can choose to let Anger rule me. Others do not...

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Great topic. I know I can let myself get absorbed in correcting perceived wrongs. I need to chill. I work hard at it but often fail. Thank you for bringing it up for self reflection.
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This reminds me about a youtube video I watched awhile back on happyness and emotion.

 

It talks about emotions and that you cannot be in one state all the times its physically impossible, and how you have to apperciate all your emotions including anger. 

 



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That video made me angry.

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Great thread...LOL  Anger?? ...of course.  Consequences?  bleeds off over supply of energy...motivates movement away from one topic to another...can detract procrastination...a grief tool and partner...repressed by acceptance thoughts, feelings and actions...very very human  and can trigger fits of humor with laughter.   smile



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Don't forget the search function, plenty of threads on anger


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Anger is the dubious luxury of normal men ... ... ... but for alcoholics, it is poison!!! ... .. ... pg. 66 ... BB



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I know stuff like this can be frustrating...hungry, angry, lonely, tired or hot :) Get to a meeting with A/C.

Not to minimize the issue, but AC is a pretty high-level problem, many people go without it their whole lives. I'm grateful for high level problems I have today.

Hope you get it fixed soon though!!



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Dori , anger is quiet normal . But as others have said , to us it is poison.

Yes mate It Is , literally . Now I am a Semi Driver - Not a Dr .

But if you were to have a look at what Too much adrenalin , noradrenalin &

a heap of other stuff does to us When there is nowhere for it to go . Rage ,

PTSD , Depression is where I am coming from . I am on medication for all

three . Some times other things Need to be treated outside th rooms of AA,

not by well meaning AA riends & Certainly not AA Drs , unless th person is an

actual Dr & knows your case history . Yes , there are some things , we can't ,

"put on the programme"



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1st world problems.


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Funny Tom ; )

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anger is whats goin on internally and not externally with me. common denominator:
know God
know peace
no God
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Thanks for the reminder Tomsteve !!!



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I NEED TO READ THIS THREAD EVERY SINGLE DAY! EXCELLENT!!!!

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In AA we use our resentments to actually get closer to God. Hence, part of the 12-step process.



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odat, are we "justifying" our anger? lol. It's been my observation that women in our program are more apt to feel that anger is a natural and necessary component of of life. Do you feel this way?

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http://tampa.craigslist.org/pnl/ppd/3813201809.html



shouldn't be too far from you.



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Okay, ... ... ... Dean just got my interest up in this ... I, too, would like to know the answer to his question odat ... ... ...



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Resentments and anger are a detriment to my sobriety. I don't quite understand how they can help me.

Anger and resentment helped me to justify drinking again.

My whole point here is this; We live in Fl and have been without Air for 5 days. Life goes on. It is 83 in the house right now. Yep, hot and uncomfortable. Oh well. I worry more about my Guinea Pigs than myself. Were I not sober my anger would cause me to not worry about them.

I also know from working in the Steel Industry that one solved problem on a Turret press can uncover another one. Who to get mad at? The machine? The person who is trying to fix it? No, S&^% happens.

Anger blinds me. I am angry and I do not see what is in front of me.

Yes, anger does have it's place, but I think the place that Anger holds is very limited.

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It's always good to have a small window AC unit to throw in your bedroom. ;)

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StPeteDean wrote:

It's always good to have a small window AC unit to throw in your bedroom. ;)

 I wish!  I am going back to my Texas days... fans over bowls of ice...  :)



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That was very nice of you Dean ... ... ...



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Thanks Dean!!!

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