Hi...I had 105 days sobriety in, but I recently had a slip. I am attending an AA mtg tonight. Do I need to "confess" this slip?
Welcome Fiestalady, ... ... ... glad to have you here at MIP ...
If you have or get a sponsor, and work the steps, all this is going to come up anyway ... your choice, if you wish to keep it to yourself right now or not ... main thing is to get back to the meetings ASAP ... ... ... most of us have experience in the 'slip' department ... it's rare that someone gets and stays sober their 1st time around, it does happen, but it's rare ... ... ...
The thing is, for most of us, it takes a great deal of courage to go back and admit you had a weak moment ... I applaud you admitting it here, but it's still a little harder doing so in front of the group ... One of my sponcees slipped right at the 2 year mark, ... when he came back (within a week), he got so many hugs and kisses from the women, he told me he had the thought of going out again ... LOL ... just to come back and get the women hugs ... of course he said he was just kidding ... (he's been sober again now for about 6 months I think ...)
One thing sharing about a 'slip' before the group, is it usually makes you feel more at ease, knowing that they know ... actually, some of the older members probably already do ... don't let guilt skew your judgement ... you ain't done anything that most of us haven't already done ... ... ...
Love ya and God Bless,
Pappy
-- Edited by Pythonpappy on Tuesday 16th of April 2013 10:54:40 AM
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
There is only one requirement for membership - the desire to stop drinking.
I think that honesty is important, but it's up to you. If you want to just go in and pick up another 24 hr chip - everyone will get the drift that you relapsed. If you want to tell a little bit about why you think you slipped to help others newer than you not do that... then feel free.
I shared that I was only going to one meeting per week, and that I thought I shouldn't put myself and my recovery ahead of my kids and family, so after the 1st week of going to lots of meetings, I started only going 1 or 2 times per week, and then after some time I drank again.
Finally, I commited to 90 meetings in 90 days, even if the kids were screaming as I left and hanging on my pant leg. Even if my husband didn't get supper made for him. No matter what, I was going to make it to a meeting. I've been sober ever since (about a year).
I now go to about 3-4 meetings per week, and that works well for me.
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Thanks for everything. Peace and Love on your journey.
Welcome, fiestalady! :) You don't have to confess anything. You can choose to share about your relapse in the hopes in can help others and yourself, if you wish. It can get scary in the dark but when you bring things out into the light they can be healed. You may find others share about their relapses and give you insight and guidance into your own. Regardless of your choice, I wish you all the very best and am happy you made it back. So very many don't.
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I think there's an invisible principle of living...if we believe we're guided through every step of our lives, we are. Its a lovely sight, watching it work.
Welcome Miss Fiesta Lady, Don't let the stress of the decision keep you away from the light. Do not even think about it. Just go to the meeting and sit down and chat. If you do not feel like bringing it up, don't. I will tell you that you will not feel shame if you do tell. Just like on here, most of us have slipped AND the program 100% understands slipping. It is only a 24 hour thing anyway. Tom
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Hi...I had 105 days sobriety in, but I recently had a slip. I am attending an AA mtg tonight. Do I need to "confess" this slip?
It's up to you. There is no rule about such things.
The main thing, given your situation, is that you keep going to meetings. Share if you can. Share if you need to. Keep going to meetings. Listen and share.
I am late to this but honesty to yourself and to others if very important. You mention you had days sober. How about 24 hours?
I feel you are harshly judging yourself. However, my guess would be that you will NOT be judged by your group. They will still accept you as if you had not slipped. I was 15 years sober. I am a bit over 24 hours now.
I admit when I joined last night I secretly hoped I would be judged. I was not. So, to me that took away my excuse to drink. Am I making sense?
Yes beacause its the right thing to do or jut coast along live a lie. Honesty is number 1 thing confessing to the slip will help 1 rexcover and learn from mistakes
