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Thursday, February 28, 2013

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Letting Go of Denial

We are slow to believe that which, if believed, would hurt our feelings.
Ovid

Most of us in recovery have engaged in denial from time to time. Some of us relied on this tool.

We may have denied events or feelings from our past. We may have denied other people's problems; we may have denied our own problems, feelings, thoughts, wants, or needs. We denied the truth.

Denial means we didn't let ourselves face reality, usually because facing that particular reality would hurt. It would be a loss of something: trust, love, family, perhaps a marriage, a friendship, or a dream. And it hurts to lose something or someone.

Denial is a protective device, a shock absorber for the soul. It prevents us from acknowledging reality until we feel prepared to cope with that particular reality. People can shout and scream the truth at us, but we will not see or hear it until we are ready.

We are sturdy yet fragile beings. Sometimes, we need time to get prepared, time to ready ourselves to cope. We do not let go of our need to deny by beating ourselves into acceptance; we let go of our need to deny by allowing ourselves to become safe and strong enough to cope with the truth.

We will do this, when the time is right. We do not need to punish ourselves for having denied reality; we need only love ourselves into safety and strength so that each day we are better equipped to face and deal with the truth. We will face and deal with reality - on our own time schedule, when we are ready, and in our Higher Power's timing. We do not have to accept chastisement from anyone, including ourselves, for this schedule.

We will know what we need to know, when it's time to know it.

Today, I will concentrate on making myself feel safe and confident. I will let myself have my awarenesses on my own time schedule.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990



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One of our goals in life should be to discern the 'true' from the 'real' ... because someone believes something is 'real' doesn't make it 'true' ... ... ...

Denial usually involves denying something that is true ... a 'truism that is just not 'real' to us ... my alcoholism just wasn't real to me for a long time ... Oh, it was true enough, I just didn't believe it ... Knowing what's the 'truth' -vs- what's 'real' means everything ... otherwise we can find ourselves living a lie ... and the end of that journey will not be pretty ...

Not only did Papa inspire the book called 'Alcoholics Anonymous' for a guide to knowing the truth versus just thinking you know what is 'real', but Papa also inspired another book, the 'Good Book' as Dr. Bob called it ... therein is the truth to all things ... the 'Word of God' if you will ... ... ... I am very remiss for not studying this book more often ... but I have not found a 'life's problem' that that book won't help you solve ...

Is what you see and believe 'REAL' ??? ... or is it the 'TRUTH' ??? ... ... ... ... It could be both, but doesn't have to be ... it's up to us to find out ...



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