Ok been awhile, I am glad u all are here,Today its a struggle for me, I have had this many times in recovery however this time it hard to shake it. I watch my son go down the wrong road, (acceptance? right?). Alcohol and drugs are not the probem for him, its ohter things. Any way he hit a bottom (I hope). I feel like crap, and i want to jump in and save him,however I know he needs this time, to do it for himself. Wagon
Continue to be the 'example' your son needs to see ... and Pray ... it's all I can do for my son too ... and be there to help pick up the pieces IF he will ask for help ... of course you know there is no way to force our help on him or others without them 'turning on us' ... (that's been my experience anyway ... ) ... you & your son will be in my prayers too ...
God Bless, Pappy
__________________
'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
My son did take a rather short stroll down drug ave. At first I was having all kinds of negative feelings, about me, about him. I struggled, wanted to fix him. I then said to myself "he's 24, been living on his own since 18, my job as a parent is over, I did everything that I was supposed to, including giving him a good education about our family's addiction history and the disease." I felt better, thought it was going to be part of his learning curve. I told my x-wife to wait for the right moment when he reaches out for help, which came when his HS friend and roomate began trading everything in their house to the crack dealers for drugs and then flipped out. We got as many family members together and had a meeting with him, with an intervention type format but with no ultimatum. It worked.
-- Edited by StPeteDean on Monday 18th of February 2013 08:49:30 AM
Aloha Wagon and isn't good to have MIP and the program for your own recovery and to give away freely. Today I spoke with my daughter who sounded like crud and was trying not to while attempting to mumble it away with stuff and when there was a break in her conversation I wedged in stuff of my own which I have learned in recovery...stuff about letting go and letting God and actually taking time for her own peace of mind and serenity while God handles the rest of it. She's a believer so I mentioned that if she really was a believer she should practice the "doing" of it and not just the "talking" bout it. Also told her she wasn't alone and she knows where "home" is outside of her own place of misery. Tell your son your story...what it was like...what you found out...what it's like now. Keep coming back (((hugs)))
