Hey. I came here for the first time in my life because I just wanted to share my feeling somewhere, where ever. And wanted to know how do you guys do to make yourself feel better when you are depressed and gloomy, in a bad circumstance, such as when you are being unemployed for a long time like 6 months...(if some of you are.. lol hopefully not.- which means I am.)
Well it is because I could not possibly find any ideas, anymore.
And I heard that it is a worldwide problem not just mine so... I thought maybe I could find some company from anywhere. Well.... maybe this was a bad idea... But I really needed somewhere that could just write down my feelings. I get tired and feel sorry when I hear anything from my friends or family, try to cheer me up....it doesn't make me feel any better. So I haven't used facebook and twitters for some long time and stopped going out to meet them.. And now I only go out to take a walk or jog along the park or.. just study in my room, feed my dog and feed myself, pay my bills with my bloody savings, alone in my bloody house-which has a mortgage to pay..
Actually Im studying to get a better job(which will hopefully not just suddenly shut down and discharge every workers like my ex workplace....) But it is really hard on me now and meanwhile, I really feel like Im perishing.
SO yea, lol please give me advice. What makes you happy when you are really sad and depressed enough to dig down to the inner core? lol. I think I tried listening to musics and watching some silly videos..
-- Edited by Chloe1004 on Wednesday 31st of October 2012 05:13:18 AM
Take action in some form. Stay busy. Force yourself to do things rather than sit in self-pity. Self-pity is your enemy. Blast 20 job applications out a week. In sum try to focus on the serenity prayer and live it:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference.
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Keep coming back. It works if you work it. So work it. You're worth it!
Have you thought of donating some time to the homeless ??? ... I hear it can give one a great deal of perspective ... 2 maybe 3 days a week to serve meals and/or help prepare them ... whenever I get depressed, I start making a 'gratitude' list for the things I do have ... for instance, you had savings to get you through til now ... don't stop now just before the miracle happens ... keep on truckin' ...
God Bless, Pappy
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
For me, deeper contact with my Higher Power and reaching out to help others has always been my best remedy.. After leaving a job of 35 years(in May this year),relocating to another state(Fla from NY) and leaving behind some strong attachments(a working band,a great Homegroup, sponsor and friend of many years, and support team,a few close friends and my 27 year old son,now in recovery from 7 long years of heroin addiction)that were major parts of my life, I found a little complaceny and minor depression setting in. All we prayed about before we moved and the plans we thought we had, all changed upon our arrival in a new state. Being grateful for my process of recovery,taking active action in my life(seeking new church,band members,meeting places,phone contact with my support group and constantly remembering those devastating years of active addiction(1959-1984)utilizing the tools I learned along the way,especially the utilization of our programs Steps 3/11(look em up AA.ORG 12 STEPS :) put me back on track.After working over 50 years of my life and all of a sudden coming to a halt(still unemployed)has been a little different but I find ways to adjust,voluteering(at the moment) to get out the vote,helping with my in-laws(heart attacks/dementia/life skill deterioration etc)allows me to really be part of Gods work,being of maximum service to my Higher Power and others..Like stated here in other posts,,stay active,count your blessings, when in a funk,play funky music!!!!
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
Great suggestions above Chloe. In it's easiest form- pray and take action. Act your way into good thinking. Thinking your way into good acting from my experience doesn't work well for Alcoholics. Never did for me. Move your feet and more will be revealed.
I try not to sit idle for any length of time, nor should I. There's always something better I could be doing besides sulking. I also make myself available when others need my help -so not to disrupt the flow of things. I try to be of service to A.A. and my fellow man, among other recovery related tasks. And of course there's work: Just don't get me started on that. Some things are still better left alone, if you get my drift. Well, look at it this way: At least I'm still employable, thanks be to God and A.A. God knows, I've already been through enough already.
-- Edited by Mr_David on Friday 2nd of November 2012 03:19:57 AM
I came here for the first time in my life because I just wanted to share my feeling somewhere, where ever. And wanted to know how do you guys do to make yourself feel better when you are depressed and gloomy, in a bad circumstance, such as when you are being unemployed for a long time like 6 months...(if some of you are.. lol hopefully not.- which means I am.)
