My sponser recommended I join this site. I can't attend meetings regularly as I am 'mostly' a single dad.
My wife who is just a few weeks sober and back in AA has recently left me. I am just 2 weeks sober as well. I didn't think I was diseased for the longest time, but bad drinking habbits got worse. I'd attended Al-Anon for a couple of years and learned a lot about recovery, but the fact is I can't stop drinking myself, by myself.
Anyway, my great hope and prayer is that our family will be restored, but regardless of what happens there, I know I want to stop drinking for good, for me.
Welcome to MIP Sandy, ... ... ... glad you're here!
1st, ... Congrats on 2 weeks ... those are a couple of tough weeks ... you said you can't go to meetings regularly, may I suggest you make every effort to try ... doing 90 meetings in 90 days seemed an impossible task for me at first ... in fact, I was so 'eat up' with this disease AND so desperate, it took me just shy of 2 years of 7 to 10 meetings a week to get comfortable enough to back off some ... For me it was 'go to any lengths', or die ...
I'm not saying you must do what I did, simply give it your best shot ... alcoholism is not to be toyed around with, it's deadly ... You may want to find family and/or friends that will help watch the kids alternately ... it may help for them to know your reason ... if you have friends from a church or community group, they may be in a position to help also ...
But whatever you come up with, staying sober needs to be your #1 priority in life ... above all else ... if we can't stay sober, then we become of little or no use to anyone else, period ... especially our kids ... it's your choice ...
Good luck and God Bless, Pappy
P.S. We lost a very dear friend this past weekend to this disease ... it is not to be taken lightly ... she died at the age of 22 ... (sorry to have to rough you up a little ... most of us are still stunned over the death of our sister ... stick around here long enough, you'll get to experience what we just have ... and you'll sit and wonder if there was more you could have said or done to change the outcome ...) ... I'm still 'pissed', but I don't know what at ... alcoholism I guess ... sorry!
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Aloha Sandy...that is my story also and so from experience...stick around. Some will call you a "double" and thats great...a "double shot" of recovery and the miracles become very vivid. Welcome
Welcome to MIP and all the best on your journey of recovery. :)
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Hello Sandy, Your sponsor is a smart guy! Sorry to hear about the family situation, but the best way to improve your situation is to get yourself back to sanity. You are taking the right steps my friend!!! Tom
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Welcome Sandy. Your heart seems to be in the right place, so that's good to hear. The rest you'll learn along the way. I can't even imagine what you're going through -currently, but you don't have to do so alone. We'll help you every step of the way, that's our promise to you. Welcome again.
Wow, thanks all for the encouragement and replies.
I need to check out where some afternoons meetings are, (I'm currently out of work). I've got a few leads though and that is encouraging.
Yes, I've been to a few meetings and want to go to more. Well, gotta take the little ones to school and run. Oh, and I'm reading "Dry" by Augusten Buroughs... very funny, but sad and serious at the same time.
