There's some sick folks in AA. Not everyone is fully blossoming and recovering at the same speed. Look for the miracles and the growth and turn and walk away from the tragedies.
-edit: Now that I think about it - I want to clarify that my suggesting you walk away from the tragedies is still something I stick to but it's to let other folks with more time in the program deal with him. Your task as a newcomer is to recieve help. My sponsor told me in my first few months to walk away from people that would drag me out faster than I would drag them "in"
-- Edited by pinkchip on Friday 17th of August 2012 09:37:55 AM
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Ok I went to my meeting this morning. I was chatting and doing my thing. Then I started talking to two guys. One starts talking about going to have a cigarette. He invites me. I say no thanks I don't smoke. The other guy is like I have not had one in 10 years. So then I say yea I quite 5 years ago. I don't smoke anymore. The cigarette guys says to me are you sure. I was like no thanks. Then he starts talking about weed. How he uses. He's sorta whispering and looking around. He goes you smoke. I said that is a bad idea for me as I used to use it alot and it has connections with my cigarette smoking and drinking. So, no I do not. He goes yea there aren't to many people around here that approve. Then he gives me the wink wink, nod, nod. I am looking around and people are hearing this and not happy. I am like I got to get out of this quick. Even now thinking about it my hands are f'in shaky and sweaty. I actually feel like I gonna vomit. WTF!!!!!
Thanks guys and gals! I will pray for him. I cannot help him right now. I can only say that is not the right path for me. But I hope he keeps coming back. Really, thank you. To the shore for a nice weekend. Trying to relax.
Mich, just stay away from the guy. Take in the pure part of the program. AA is not perfect, and when imperfection shows up, recognize it (which you did) and neutralize it. What does your sponsor say about it? Tom
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Mich, sounds like you did great! No thanks is a great response. To thine own self be true and everything else will fall into place. Let it and him go. You got what you needed from the meeting. Reality- some individuals still self medicate even if they've stopped drinking. Some are sicker than others. I'd say be grateful- it's not you. Love and tolerance of others is our code- step 10. Take care of YOU and everything else will fall into place. It did for me.
I hope he finds a good N.A. meeting to go along with his A.A. regiment. Obviously he needs additional help, so pray for him and then...turn it over. Remember: You can only carry the message of recovery and not the addict/alcoholic themselves. So do your part by praying Mich, and then turn the page. The rest is up to his higher power.
Stick with the winners Mich....Those two don't make the cut.
exactly. Not all the people at meetings are "getting it". Many are fairly new, and occasionally you'll have some that are totally clueless. Once you get feeling a bit more comfortable about your sobriety, you'll be able to to respond to these folks kinda and perhaps change their mind about being in denial.
Thank you all so much. I have been able to let it go. You are all right. It won't do any good to dwell or judge. Today he shared about how great he feels and how good his life is going. I thought for a minute... Hey dude did you realize you really scared a person who is really new to this stuff. Then I realized again let it go. Not something I have control over.
