Okay, Brian, it's understandable. But then, again, who's to say what might happen a year maybe two from now. I was broke for the first 2 years of sobriety, but now I'm much better off. It took me working two jobs just to make ends meet. So don't give up hope just yet. I accrued a lot of debt during my drinking campaign, so I needed to work more than one job just to 'get into the black' as they say. So hang in there for now. Your job prospects might be looking up, sooner rather than later.
As far as sobriety goes, well, that's a different story altogether. You know how important meetings are, but do you know how important fellowshipping truly is? It wasn't until I developed a good rapport within my sober family that the prospect of a better life started to unfold. Only then did I realize how important those relationships truly are.
Okay, let's say I needed advice on legal matters, for example. I would then turn to my good friend Bill who's a lawyer. If I needed advice on counseling, I would then turn to my friend Jan who's a therapist. If I needed advice on finances, I would certainly turn to my close friend John who's a financial planner. The list, of course, goes on and on. The point I'm making is simple: These people not only keep me sober, but help me with other advice as well. That's why they're called my sober network. So networking, to me, is very important.
Telling everyone in an open forum about your private affairs is not what I'm suggesting, though. I mean, some things should still remain private. But there are a group of us -hence, my sober network- who goes above and beyond what is considered soberly advice. So find your grove Brian and develop a plan of action, like I have. Then, you can start enjoying life again just like the rest of us. Will life continue to happen? Yes. On life's terms also? Yes, of course -though we don't have to go it alone anymore. But rest assured; we have advocates who can help today. So rely on their expertise's also and not just their soberly advice. It works for me, so work for it yourself.
-- Edited by Mr_David on Saturday 21st of July 2012 12:16:24 AM
Youve just finally recovered. Youve been through this awful thing and have had a real god or whatever save you and your all alone in some apartment nearing 27. You dont really have anyone but your one friend who helps you with groceries just gave you some pop sounding real weird and it was open and there was some weird shit in it...
I have 35 cents and nowhere to go and Im pretty sure theres some bigger lowlives than I counted on who dont like me very much that I used to know a few years ago. Do I find a job real quick? Do I move somewhere? I dont have a car, and I dont really count on being f-ed over again by some people who are just sicker than you could probably understand. Im sure some of you have met people like this... I was never the life of the party for whatever reason, for whatever reason it was somebody wanted to kill me...Usually a person more stupid and disgusting than Ill even bother writing about. What do I do? Where do I go?
Do I live at the meetings and disappear with someone who seems right? I dont really wanna do that!...
There is woman in my home group that is fond of saying "sobriety isn't for pussies " I'm hear to tell you that life is tough sometimes my life sucked for the first year i was sober. 1st know your story isn't unique so tell people in the recovery community where you are look for a job , look for a couch to sleep on if you lose the place you are staying. You didn't get yourself to this point overnight you won't get yourself out of it quickly either. Work hard and accept help when it is offered. Goodluck and god bless
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Obsession with self in these matters is a dead end; attention to God leads us out into the open, into a spacious, free life. Romans 8:6 , The Message
Hey Bryan, ... You have a kinda 'Chuck Norris' thing going on here ... your avatar makes my mind read your shares in a Chuck Norris voice and sincerity ... Oddly, to me, this lends itself to making your share possess a certain kind of 'honesty' feel to them ...
Especially loved what you said above ... thanks
Pappy
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
You could probably trade work to sleep in a sober/recovery/rooming/halfway house. I'm sure that someone would be more than willing to help you during your transition. Bryan is right... Someone has been there done that and might be willing to let you borrow his t shirt.
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Some great feedback here...I was thinking along the lines of Ruhig...Look into a sober house or some kind of clean environment to live..Sobriety has to be your main concern here...Without it...Forget about holding a job...This thing takes some serious effort on your part...That real God will steer the boat...But you have to row it.
Closer - I agree with all of the above. It took longer than a year for me to realize how much fear was holding me back in all areas of my life. Do you have a sponsor? That would help a lot. Next, do not be afraid of change and what you will have to go through to get to a better place. It's better than the one you are at probably right? All of us have "bottoms" of sorts even in sobriety and those are harsh realizations that we have been standing in our own way and need to change. Praying for your growth and prosperity.
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