I had my most recent intoxicant in 1993 and consider myself in early sobriety (assuming I live the standard number of years for men). At 10 months I could barely put a sentence together let alone handle relats, work, weight, etc etc.
Weigh gain in early reocvery is very common and temporary as we adjust to life without crutches. I was giving up a major, well, my only, source of relief so naturally I turned to food. And unemployment -- I hear that's going around (ahem). It's not you. The economy is pretty tepid.
One day at a time it and keep close to the rooms. This situation/s will pass. Notbhing is a permanent situation. Just keep moving forward. And stay hydrated.
-- Edited by mattbox2 on Thursday 19th of July 2012 10:46:01 PM
-- Edited by mattbox2 on Thursday 19th of July 2012 10:49:47 PM
I AM NOW 10 MONTHS CLEAN!! AND I HAVE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SIX CHILDREN THREE OF THEM ARE HIS, THE OTHER THREE ARE GROWN NOW,, OFF AND ON FOR 15 YRS THIS RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN UP AND DOWN ... NOW THAT I CAN'T FIND A JOB AND GAINING ALOT OF WEIGHT HE DECIDES THAT WE DON'T HAVE ANYTHING IN COMMON.. HE IS CLEAN THROUGH SALVATION..SO EVERYTHING I DO I AM DOING IT WRONG ESPECIALLY GOING TO MEETINGS ....I AM NOT READY FOR ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP BUT I AM NOT HAPPY AT ALL!!! MY KIDS ARE LIKE THE STICKY PART THAT'S KEEPING THIS US TOGETHER..
First and foremost is putting your sobriety first ... that should be your top priority ... if you sink back into your addiction to alcohol or drugs, then you'll never hold a steady job for long ... and you'll soon put the importance of your drinking above that of your kids ... Or anyone else for that matter ... If you don't have a sponsor, you should get one ... and discuss this issue with them perhaps ...
But AA, for the most part, deals strictly with problems arising from the use of alcohol ... problems with relationships are usually better left to those who deal with that professionally ...
God Bless, Pappy
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'Those who leave everything in God's hand will eventually see God's hand in everything.'
I can only suggest keeping your recovery up front.Without it, all else will continue to plummet downhill based on the evidence.There are many different roads to recovery, Alcoholics Anonymous offers a program for people who want it not necessarily need it.We suggest making meetings listening and getting a sponsor and getting in to our solution'the Steps' worked with a sponsor and the spiritual principles of the program applied in the attitudes and behaviors of our lives.Relationships can be terribly painful areas.Dr.Phil im' not,I have been married 3x and divorced 2x headed for a 3rd until with the grace and mercy of my Higher Power whom I choose to call God,I was able to come to the emotional acceptance of utter defeat and totally surrender after 25 years of devatation to myself and all those around me..Sometimes we do find out we may not have anything in common even with others we have lived with, especially if we spent that time being twisted and in oblivion.I also thought I would stay together for the kids,but the kids are very aware of whats going on,I came from that same kind of family and also have parented a 27 year old son ,a now recovering heroin addict, and 3 out of my 4 children that use.I only say this because I know again based on the evidence I had no shot of even living or becoming a productive member of society until I put my recovery first.More is continually being revealed as we WORK OUR OWN PROCESS.You may be able to work your relationship out,you may need professional help,but though WE may not be responsible for our addiction but WE are responsible for our recovery! Let us know how your doing Peace....
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
Welcome to MIP! Best I can suggest is to keep doing what you need to do to stay sober. All I can say on the other things is get into God's will and out of self and keep taking positive action to get work and make other improvements you desire.
Rob
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Rob
"There ain't no Coupe DeVille hiding in the bottom of a Cracker Jack Box."
I'm sorry to hear about your troubles, dear. It does seem rather troubling, especially in this day and age. People have a habit of blaming others for their misfortunes, so it doesn't surprise me on bit. Salvation, by the way, is God's plan for redemption, and not for humans to gloat over, ever. You sobered up for yourself not him, so keep that in mind, okay. My suggestion, stick to the plan -sober living- and never waiver from that, ever. It's the glue that binds your life together, ultimately. The rest will work out on God's timetable, regardless of his silly ways. I hope he's able to find true salvation before time eventually expires. I certainly hope so...
-- Edited by Mr_David on Saturday 21st of July 2012 12:08:34 AM
The thing about AA is we won't tell you what to do about your relationships but we can guide you through the 12 steps so you can find your own answers. That's really all that works. Try to find the Willingness if you can.
MSTROUBLE2011 wrote:
I AM NOW 10 MONTHS CLEAN!! AND I HAVE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SIX CHILDREN THREE OF THEM ARE HIS, THE OTHER THREE ARE GROWN NOW,, OFF AND ON FOR 15 YRS THIS RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN UP AND DOWN ... NOW THAT I CAN'T FIND A JOB AND GAINING ALOT OF WEIGHT HE DECIDES THAT WE DON'T HAVE ANYTHING IN COMMON.. HE IS CLEAN THROUGH SALVATION..SO EVERYTHING I DO I AM DOING IT WRONG ESPECIALLY GOING TO MEETINGS ....I AM NOT READY FOR ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP BUT I AM NOT HAPPY AT ALL!!! MY KIDS ARE LIKE THE STICKY PART THAT'S KEEPING THIS US TOGETHER..
