I feel a bond here because we share the same sobriety date. Must've been a miracle in the air on the 3rd! :)
The next step for you is to attend an AA meeting. If you don't know where they are in your local area, there is a link here under the thread titled "website links". The meeting you choose may offer you a Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous). That's how I got my first BB. And the person who gave it to me told me to open it to page 112, and read the first three words.
A lot of people (women) will be offering you advice and their phone number. Graciously accept these offers.
It was suggested over and over again that the newcomer should "take the cotton out of my ears and put it in my mouth". At first I thought "well that's just rude", but I did it anyway...and I'm glad I did. There's a lot of wisdom in that!
According to the AA sobriety calculator, you and I have now been sober 5 days, 15 hours and 36 min. as I post this!
~Deborah~
-- Edited by Harobed on Sunday 8th of July 2012 02:39:46 PM
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It has been an interesting five days for me! On the fourth of July, hanged out with family who were drinking, but did not succumb to the temptations of alcohol, wasn't easy, but prayed, and just went home early before everyone was popping open the crown royal.... Yesterday, went to a pool party that was in my honor for my birthday, and had quite a few people offer me drinks, (nope) I brought a book to read and stayed away from the chaos! But I wasn't at all tempted, instead I just laughed at all the stupid drunk people wishing me a great birthday! My bestfriend ended up getting mad at her boyfriend and peeing on his clothes while he was swimming, in which as a favor washed them for him, and got them to make up! Other situations happen like my fiancee wanted to go yet to another party after drinking about ten beers, but thank goodness passed out within five minutes in the car, so I just drove home! I can't believe I used to act like these poeple!!!! Like that Kay Perry song, I feel "Wide Awake" I'm awake today and more focus then ever not to drink... I plan to go to my first meeting this week, I think I'm ready now to go!
Way to go Tina and Deborah, ... ... 5 days CAN be a real ... uh... 'you know what' ... glad ya'll are off to a great start ...
This site is great but it doesn't take the place of real live meetings, with real live people, that give you real live 'HUGS' ... Brace yourselves for becoming a part of a family that will grow in closeness as time goes on ... AND for a new family that can, and will, in all likelyhood, be closer to you than your own families ... Glad ya'll here...
Love You'ins, Pappy
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Congrats to both of you!..That's Awesome!...I did the same thing a year ago as you two....What worked for me?...Lot's of meetings...A sponsor....And working the steps....It works if you work it!...Keep up the good work...And don't drink today!!
Congratulations on 5 days and even better taking some action to get to a meeting,seek a sponsor and get into our "solution" the Steps!! Keep coming back.....
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
It sounds like you are also surrounded by other alcoholics. Partying like that and passing out - peeing on clothes...that is insanity. It will be hard to stay sober if you are around that all the time. Having 5 days sober is AWESOME - you will get even more clarity with more sobriety time.
I had to dump my alcoholic partner to really get sober and I had to stop hanging out with other ridiculous, reckless alcoholics. It's not necessarily a sign of strength to stay sober in the company of tons of alcoholics and lots of crazy alcoholic behavior. It's taking unnecessary risks with your sobriety. If I described a situation like that to my sponsor in my first month or even year of sobriety - He would have told me I was nuts and must have wanted to drink to be around that hot mess.
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Keep coming back. It works if you work it. So work it. You're worth it!
It sounds like you are also surrounded by other alcoholics. Partying like that and passing out - peeing on clothes...that is insanity. It will be hard to stay sober if you are around that all the time.
Thank you for writing this post Pinkchip. I wanted to tell her this same thing, but I'm not in a position right now to be as direct and candid as you were.
I too had to not only leave an alcoholic partner, but also "friends" in order to protect my sobriety. It's hurtful and painful when these people choose the bottle over me.
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Thank you so much for the positive feedback! I have talked to my fiancee about his behavior around me, and my friends, (which I finally spoke up for myself) and they are now being supportive! My fiancee I know has a drinking problem too, so does my BFF, but are not ready to realize that. I told them that I am becoming a different and better person, and would choose myself if I had too! My fiancee doesn't want to loose me, so he has agreed no more drinking in our home, and when we are out and about! So far so good! As for my BFF, I'm going to limit myself spending time around her, she gets out of control quickly, and it's hard to be around her! I just pray she finds her way to sobriety soon, or I might just have to give up being her bff..... I am now one full week sober, AND, eating better, and have loads of energy! It's been fantastic waking up in the mornings. People at my work have noticed a spark in me. Just yesterday, one of my co-workers said I was glowing!!!!!!! Awesome feeling to have other people around, that have no idea what is going on, but notice a positive change!!!!!
I had some friends I just couldn't be around anymore....I hope and pray they give it up someday too...But there is nothing more important than my sobriety....It's all about making changes....Doing what I have to do to keep it. I hope your fiancee can keep going with you....It would be great for both of you. Hang in there Bunny...You're doing great!
