I don't know that you really need a quote "on-line" sponsor ... ... ... A real live 'huggable' sponsor at your home group is much preferred I think ... LOL
But if you insist on getting a particular person's personal advice here 'on-line' ... ... ... then may I suggest that you visit this site often, then try to P.M. (private message) a person you find that you most 'identify' with ... I'm pretty sure any of us that have been around a while will be more than happy to carry on an 'on-line' relationship with you if you need help with any part of the AA program ... You have but to ask ...
God Bless, Pappy
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In my experience, it is frowned upon to have an online sponsor, and as you approach your 4 step it could become difficult. I have looked at several sites for virtual sponsorship and on a few occasions I have seen two or three people post their email but I've tried this method and it doesn't turn out well. It has been explained to me that finding a real life sponsor goes under the "going to any lengths" in our recovery. I have found the Internet aspect of my recovery to be a wonderful supplement though and encourage you to revisit any and all recovery site you find helpful.
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Wise words in both the previous two posts. From a sponsor's point of view it would be nigh on impossible to do a proper job. But in terms of fellowship, on line is great. I have a sponsee who lives way in the wap waps and only gets to one or two meetings a year. He finds loners international is great and he has friends all over the world.
There are only a couple of reasons I can see for having an on-line sponsor:
A good reason would be if you lived in an area with little recovery and few meetings.
Most other reasons would seem negative and due to fear. Since at the crux of AA, we strive not to live in fear, this runs counter to he program.
Others stated it pretty eloquently - This place and internet relationships focused on recovery are awesome supplements....they cannot and do not substitute for traditional AA meetings, sponsorship, fellowship...etc.
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thank you so much, this is all new to me. I do try and get to as many meetings as possible but I had a 2 years sober, and i got my drivers license back, got my car on the road, and saw a liquor store. I went in and got a 1/2 pint and long story short, 2 5ths later I came to 70 miles from my home as the police were pulilng my car over. a man i had never seen before was driving, and my car got towed. i didn't go t jail or kill anyone with my drunk driving by the grace of God, so i am very lucky. I stayed there in that town drunk for 8 days. my car never got retreived from impound. I had lost my sponsor a year ago due to a move, No one will mess with me here because I am what is known as a cronic relapser. i have been m only to stay sober for 15 years. i am only averaging 1 meeting a week because there is no public transportation at night here in the small town i live in in TN. I want to really begin to work this program because i know it works. I have a job interview thur the 6th so i may be on my feet again soon, i just want t talk with someone now, i have unlimited long distance so i could foot the bills for a phone call also I am a female so if anyone is willing to help please let me know. Thanks again. Tracy
I just sent you a PM before I noticed this post ... Oddly??? it says what Tasha just suggested to you ... WOW ... amazing how some of us start thinking alike after a while ... LOL
Great post Tasha ... ... ... Your maturity in the program in such a short period is nothing short of amazing (some might even call it a miracle!!!) ... YOU GO GIRL!!! ...
Tracy, the miracles start here and in the AA way of life ... You don't have to keep living with the misery alcohol brings unless you absolutely insist on it ... For me? ... Prayer was one of the first tools I found an amazing power in ... Don't underestimate the power of prayer ... use it frequently ... Read the BB and the 12X12 ... go to meetings and talk to us here daily ... in 90 days, you'll be well on your way to a fulfilling sober life complete with 'peace and serenity' that is sought by everyone ... guaranteed!
God Bless, Pappy
P.S. Good luck on your interview Thurs.
-- Edited by Pythonpappy on Monday 2nd of July 2012 10:53:11 AM
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Tracy - when I was in search of a sponsor - I posted every day here and had lots of help and support. The collaborative teachings I received also helped me to realize that there is a community and fellowship here, and I began to care for the people here, and feel they care for me. Even after I did find a sponsor to call daily, I still posted here each day (while I was also doing 90 meetings in 90 days, I posted each day, and I am just a few days past that). To hold myself responsible to post each day, not only let me sort things out in my head as I wrote... but just like when speaking to a sponsor daily, these people saw me on my good days, and bad days. (and cranky and pleading for relief from the troubles I caused for myself days)
But they carried me through with loving arms while I searched for sponsorship, and worked to build my program up as best I possibly could with what our small town has to offer.
I also tried to rely solely on online work my first couple months in AA - and didn't do much of anything to build my "live" program (meetings, sponsorship - working the steps, making an effort to do simple service work and meet people). Then I drank.
For me this online thing is awesome - BUT I must be working the "live" program to the best of my ability also.
Soon, I realized, if I am willing to do the best I can each day here in AA, make connections where ever possible, I have a great chance of hitting my pillow sober that night... and I get to remember kissing my kids goodnight, and them telling me they love me.
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Thanks for everything. Peace and Love on your journey.
