I cant seem to cope its getting harder and harder......I am staying with a man,his daughter as well as her boy friend,they are all three active addicts.I feel as though they dont understand where I stand in life. I am going for my dreams as well as my number one goal in life and it seems as if they are up set because I WANT MORE IN MY LIFE.....Am I so wrong?I think not.Everyone seems so angry,am I SO WRONG?I just want my life,and I want to stay sober...I clean, I cook,i do laundry,my share of the rent is always paid on time,and I stay in my room why are they so upset with me? I JUST WANT TO STAY SOBER.......Any feedback will help me please respond......
My suggestion, stop doing more than your fair share, okay. You're not a doormat either, so hang a sign that says...don't tread on me, alright. Then, work on yourself. It's a process, but no one can impede that progress unless you allow them too, so don't. Keep that mometum going dear, regardless.
-- Edited by Mr_David on Sunday 27th of May 2012 01:40:45 PM
Kendra - Surround yourself with people from the fellowship and distance yourself from them as much as possible. Imagine you are stranded on an island and there are 2 types of people you run into 1. Cannibals, 2. Other survivors that want to help you. You need to stick with the survivors and stay away from those cannibals. If moving is not an option then just walk right past them - detach - go to AA meetings - make tons of friends in AA - go out and be with them - surround yourself with them. In short - redefine yourself.
You have got to change playmates and your playground in order to stay sober. That does not mean move right away necessarily - but don't keep addicts and drunks as you main support. And don't let them too far in your head.
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I agree with Dean ... I suggest you change your living arrangements ASAP ... the losers your referring to are probably just ENVIOUS of you, by your desiring to do what they know to be the right thing ... AND they probably see some things in you already that they wish they had ... SO, ... ... ... They are doing the next best thing in their minds ... That's to bring you down to their level of misery so it make them feel better, not you ...
Please do your best to get out of there and find an appropriate place to continue your spiritual growth ..
God be with you, Pappy
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Welcome to MIP! Glad you are looking to having a "LIFE". When I finally surrendered I found it necessary,for me, to leave a rock/roll band I had been playing in,stop frequenting the places I always did and trying to find new things involved with people who weren't using(for a period) I have long lost the fear of being around others who may drink or use but still prefer at all chances to not be in that environment...For me, recovery was definitely about change.I didnt have any contacts in my life that werent getting high/drunk etc.The places I went was most condusive to the environment of getting twisted(I didnt know any other way.One of my biggest concerns when I put down the poison, was 'WELL NOW WHAT! Can't party,everybody does,I can't spend rest of my life like this blah,blah..I found a new way to live with people who didn't use and events that you didnt need to be in a coma to partake in.I had an early sponsor who allowed me to share my thoughts and ideas and then suggested what I really needed to d0(in a loving,caring,gruff and hardcore manner)When I found the program and mixed with people"just like me" I finally knew that no matter what the 'PAIN DEFINITELY OUTWEIGHED THE PLEASURE'!!Come on in from the storm,try a meeting,there truly is another way to live,one that can be better than you have ever known.Is it time to surrender,make an admission,decide to do whatever it takes to get into sobriety?Only you can answer that question .Thanks for reaching out and helping remind me,that though it seems like light years ago,the devastion of my early 25 years of utter chaos,there are other times when it seems like yesterday.WE keep working,daily,to ensure we don't go back and refund our misery!Join us!Won't you...........!
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
I have to keep reading and re reading to remind myself Im going to get better,Ill be out soon,this mess is almost over an my new life is just begining.................
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