Hmmm... If you don't mind my asking, and please believe this is coming from an honest desire to understand/ help, but when you were drinking, how did you get your alcohol? Did you go out to get it, or did you have an enabler getting it for you like some of us did? Has your Fibromyalgia gotten significantly worse in the last few months?
-- Edited by zzworldontheweb on Wednesday 2nd of May 2012 08:36:08 PM
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I was addicted to the pain meds antianxiety meds and muscle relaxers that I was prescribed. Most of the time all it took to get more was a call to the pharmacy and have it delivered. If I had to go to the doctor (every few months) I would have someone take me and often I was too sick to make those regularly scheduled appointments. Thats how sick I get
I have been sober for 7 months. About a month ago I finished an outpatient rehab. It was a lifesaving program. I have been sick for 10 years with Fibromyalgia. I am having a very hard time physically and connot get out to meetings. I have been doing some online but keep hearing I need to get out to meetings and my sponser seems to agree with that. I am not trying to get out of going to meetings, I simply cannot go. I have let communication with my sponser slip because I cannot handle the unecessary pressure of her expecting me to do somuch and yes, I have talked to her. Are there any resources available to someone like me?
Ask them to bring the meeting to your house? We take meetings to jails, hospitals and other institutions. Get a bunch of others together and have them over...you could make it a weekly meeting with a name of its own. ((((hugs))))
and it comes on in waves called flares. I can go months with just really bad pain and a fatiguebut during a flare, which itself can last for months I can barely get up to pee.
Not to compare your pain to work demands AT ALL, but I understand that pressure from a sponsor, and how it can start to drive a wedge between you and the program. I am an attorney in a demanding professional role, and often I would have to miss a meeting because I wasn't able to leave work early enough. My first sponsor worked at a 40-hour-a-week, union job where she was guaranteed to be able to leave when her shift was over. I really LIKE going to meetings and don't enjoy missing them, but she would harp on me every time I did, making me feel guilty, and clearly not understanding that I don't necessarily have control over when I leave the office. I started thinking about dropping out of the program altogether.
Instead, I found a new sponsor. She is also a young-ish single professional woman, and instead of criticizing me for missing evening meetings, she empathized and worked WITH me on a better strategy. She encouraged me to try lunchtime meetings near my office (I could almost always slip out at lunch as long as I knew I'd be back), and that worked a lot better and was my home group for a long time.
Again -- I don't mean to imply this is anything on the scale of chronic pain, but I'm just saying that what worked for me was sticking with the *program* -- even if that meant changing my sponsor, my meetings, and other aspects of how I related to it. Definitely do ask about meetings being brought to your home -- I've attended those many times. Good luck!
I have been sober for 7 months. About a month ago I finished an outpatient rehab. It was a lifesaving program. I have been sick for 10 years with Fibromyalgia. I am having a very hard time physically and connot get out to meetings. I have been doing some online but keep hearing I need to get out to meetings and my sponser seems to agree with that. I am not trying to get out of going to meetings, I simply cannot go. I have let communication with my sponser slip because I cannot handle the unecessary pressure of her expecting me to do somuch and yes, I have talked to her. Are there any resources available to someone like me?
Did you drink today? No? That's good enough for you, right? Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and it shall all be revealed to you, especially if you ask.
i really liked the post here. having one to 4 other ladies over to bring a meeting to you is an excellent idea. my sponsor has fibromalgia, too, and she was in bed for a couple of months. we did bring a meeting to her, and it really perked her up. get a phone list and make phone calls, checking in with other AA women is a good idea too. on your non flare up days, have someone pick you up and go to a new meeting. it is great to meet other AAs and get new phone numbers. keep praying about it. jj/sheila
Hi some good sound advice here. I hope you will find the courage to act upon and make some calls ASP. You have done wonders for the past 7months. Never give up and never give in.
