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Thanks for the reminder that it has nothing to do with me what others are up to. I read that joke before but first time I have related it to the AA program. I just laughed at it :} I like putting it to AA and reminding myself.

Aspgrl. Its nothing to do with 13 stepping :} Its like saying why would we want to look through the crack in the fence to see what they are up to, they know someone will, so they are ready to poke them in the eye, and counting up each day :} Ha,ha, human nature.

We live in a very small community here and all us AA's live very Nr by each other often going to the beach for the day or off out for a walk,some of us just meet for coffee in the week. Its all very natural to ask after each other's well being we more or less know most of what and when we are doing social things etc. Things about each others families,and personal details as shared within the rooms. As the yellow card states '' What you see here,what you hear here, when you leave here. please let it stay here. ''

We as a few ( 5) would chat together often with care asking if we had heard from newcomers,how they were, or visitors etc. Hay 3 friends started our meetings just before we arrived ! one with 30ys, one 25yrs and one 26yrs. Good old timers. My husband and I took guidance from these after all, we were safe. And we had left our friends all back home. We moved here for AA. And to pass our message.

But when two new long time Mr & Mrs and both 21ys sobriety, moved over late last year they were both getting to know us all. Meeting with us at different times to form friendships and seek personalities. I said to them both I find it difficult to mention others to them as to me there is a thin line between sharing feelings and view's on others and my fears it may be looked upon as gossip. But within the handful of AA friends I still felt uncomfortable. I still do.

One member has hurt me in the fact that I have lost trust. I shared my step 4-5 and went through the Big Book again with her. I have no one to share my feelings with because they all know the situation and pretend nothing is going on although this member no longer talks with me. How sad is that, to have 26yrs sobriety and behave in this way. Love another AA as your brother/sister. Treat them as you would like to be treated. etc.

I continue to do all my AA meetings where we all are together 3 times a week. I continue to share my experience, strength and hope. We continue to go out to lunch after meetings. She talks over me and across me. He husband always talks. When I shared this with the first AA member living here she would not or did not like to believe this. She now see's it all the time. Its all became natural. I am now quiet.

I work my program well I have my higher power and today I try my best to accept people, places and situations. When I spoke to this lady about this situation. She said there was nothing the matter with how she behaves..

Today I will mind my own affairs and I do not bother about poking into other peoples affairs. I work my program and others work theirs. :} At the end of the day both myself and this lady are still sober :}

Yes I have been thinking that maybe my higher power was working when I found this Forum. I try my very best to let go and let God look after me. After all he always has :} 99% of my day I am happy ,content and sober.

Whoop,Whoop. Thank God. and thank you for being here to allow me to share.

Work your program its the way to stay safe and well. :} Thank God for AA :}

Polly.X