An old timer told me once that coincidence is how god protects his anonymity. I went to a meeting last night thinking I would be presenting someone with a one-year medallion. Due to circumstances beyond his control he was unable to make it. Obviously he had something more important to do than celebrate his sobriety though I can't imagine myself placing something on a higher priority level than my recovery but that's just me.
Anyway, when I arrived at the meeting, I met an old friend, a man I sponsor but haven't seen for quite some time. And of course the reason I haven't seen him is because he found more important things to do than go to meetings or call his sponsor or work the program and inevitably he woke up and found himself right back where he started.
Even I, perfect as I may appear to be, once placed my job in front of my recovery and managed somehow to go 19 days without attending a meeting. Well, I was working in a recovery house so I used that as justification for not having to go to meetings. I didn't drink, but if you had sat down and talked to me for five minutes you would think that I had relapsed because I acted the same way I did when I drank. And I think if I had gone a few days more I might have picked up a drink. I'll never know and I never want to find out.
The only thing that saved me was I went to a meeting to see if one of my clients whom I had mandated to attend certain meetings had actually gone to the meeting. When I walked in a guy was sharing from the podium about all the gifts he had received in sobriety, about getting the job back, meeting a great girl, settling down, buying a home, and a car and a boat and a snowmobile and so forth and how each time he acquired one of those things it took the place of a meeting. It was so subtle and insidious he said that he never even saw it coming. One morning he woke up in detox trying to figure out what had happened.
Talk about a rude awakening. I immediately forgot why I had gone to the meeting and vowed never to place anything before my recovery. The next day I took a leave of absence from the place I was working at and went to meetings daily.
Don't get me wrong. I still have a job and I still miss meetings or events that I would prefer not to miss. AA isn't going to pay my mortgage or my visa bills or my car insurance ah, life was so much simpler when I slept under the bridge. The point is without AA, without going to meetings, without sponsorship, without the steps, without God, I would be right back where I started and it would be so subtle and so insidious that I would never see it coming.
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Not all my days are priceless, but none of my days are worthless, anymore.
I think this is one of the most valuable posts I have read. My sponsor had hammered this into my head when I was new in AA. I have never forgotten it. Thanks for the reminder once again.
Just what I needed to hear. I was just going through my morning routine of hair, make-up, perfume etc. and was feeling good. I realized I was even starting to look better! My mind IMMEDIATELY started in on the "you could probably start cutting back on meetings". I started to think that maybe I could just go Mon. Wed. Fri. Sat. Sun. I thought of how much money it would save in gas and babysitters. How much happier Zach would be if we could save that 50 dollars a week.
BAAAAAMMMMMM! I almost literally smacked myself in the head. I recognized this thinking from before. I reminded myself that I must do this to live, and other things must be sacrificed if that's what it takes. I thought of the 5 dollar tube of lipstick and the 20 dollar perfume. Would I give that up for ruby lips and the smell of lilacs for a month... to go to just one meeting? The answer unfortunately is no. The great thing about this? I know what I need to work on today, and for as many days as it takes. So thanks!
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Thanks for everything. Peace and Love on your journey.
Thanks Wolfie! Alcoholism is so subtle and insidious. It still tries to play the game of: you're not an Alcoholic. Why then is it when I stop working toward the daily reprieve and maintaining my spiritual condition does the emotional instability start coming back into my thinking.
Things go much better when I work The Program on a daily basis. Meetings being a big part of The Program. Not that I go to a meeting every day, but I do go to several a week and I'm consistent at not going more than a couple of days without a meeting.
Hey Wolfie, this is superb. Can save some lives. I've come close in sobriety to that and sadly have seen it happen to others. My sponsor reminds me about this all the time...he's lost friends he got sober with precisely to the "life is good now, problem solved" insanity.