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BrendaJo


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Hi...I'm diving back in to the 12 step life.  I was married to an A/Addict/ Gambler/Porn Addict for a LOOOOONG time.  In and out of treatments.  I maintained AlAnon and then a 12 step Christ based group for many years.  Then total peace entered my world.  I dropped out of meetings, continued readings and then coming here.  Now, I am facing 2nd generation of A in my sons.  One lives out of state in military service.  Oldest has become a totally not nice guy to any of our family, estranged mostly.  Hot shot aviator.  Married a not nice girl, 2nd marriage after disastorous relationships.  This one is a partier and plays lots of games.  He admitted he was an A many years ago, abstained, became physical and was in accountability group.

Now, drinking all the time.  Cannot believe Anything he says.

Me, I now enjoy wine on occasion.  I take medications almost daily due to aftereffects of chemo and radiation and damage my treatment caused.  I am doing very well, especially since I almost died a year ago from treatments. 

I become frightened because of all the damage this caused to my family.  I had a family member...son or ex steal my meds.  Over 80 oxycontins.  I was afraid to take them.  This all breaks my heart.  Sickens me.

I had stage 4 cancer, with not high survival rate. 

I read an incredible list of indicators of alcoholism.  Is it inappropriate for me to email it to him?  As I said, we don't communicate hardly at all.  I do nothing to interfere with his consequences.  Would this be doing that?

Where do I go?  I went to a face to face meeting, Christ centered (important to me).  They have a drug/alcohol group (women...good), but am told most are users.  The other offering is a co dependent group...I read on that and it does not seem to be my issue.  Ahh!  Do I go to the alcohol drug group?  Or look for another.  I went once.

Have come to this site for years.  Thanks.

PS, I sure like my glass of wine when I have it.  Should I be concerned???



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Hello Brenda and welcome to the board. Doesn't sound like you have a drinking problem, as long as you're not drinking on top of your meds. You would probably benefit more by interacting on our Al-anon board. http://alanon.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727 It's very active and a few of our member here are also members there, so they'd be better equipted to answer some of your family issue questions.

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Aloha Brendajo...in time you will come to understand and in time with persistence you will find help.  StPete Dean held the lantern up to the Al-Anon board which is for the family, friends and associates of alcoholics.  I am a member of that program...started there and then came to understand my own participation in personal alcoholism.  I know attend both programs.

What faced me toward the fact of my own personal alcoholism was an honest assessment as asked by AA...you can get one at any AA meeting that has literature or any Rehab that uses some form of the 12 step recovery program.

Copy your post and take it over to the Al-Anon Board and let the multitude of members there have a gander at it and offer their Experience, Strength and Hope to you...Both boards are powerful!!

Hope to see more of you.   ((((hugs)))) smile



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Definitely check out the alanon board here

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WELCOME TO THE FAMILY!!!

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