The art of life is to show your hand. --C.V. Lucas
Newcomer
I've been thinking about talking to another sponsor. Not to replace you -- our relationship is important to me, and I get a lot from it -- but in addition to you.
Sponsor
We're lucky to have such an abundance of sober experience in this fellowship. There are many of us, and we can get to know people with various lengths of time in recovery, different experiences, and different styles. Knowing others and having the willingness to let others know us is one of the keys to growing in recovery.
I support your wanting to enlarge your support system by taking on a second sponsor. There may be someone, for example, with whom you want to focus on spiritual matters.
Your expressing your desire for additional sponsorship gives us an opportunity to take a look at our own relationship. You may think that I won't be able to understand a particular issue that's troubling you. You may be worried about how much you've already shared with me -- many of us in this fellowship are new to letting others get close, and we may feel anxious about it. Problems with relationships are often at the heart of problems of addiction. Whatever it is, I'm open to hearing about it, and I won't criticize your feelings or walk away. I've been there myself. Thank you for being willing to talk with me about your needs and plans.
Today, I am willing to be honest and open with a trusted person.
Family members show love and concern for others through their work. Parents might build a bookcase or prepare the meals. Children might help by emptying the wastebaskets. All are showing love through what they do. In our lives together, our work is an important way of saying I love you. We will still want to give them lots of hugs and kisses. But our work shows how much we care, and who is important to us. Our work around the house is an investment. It makes a home for all of us, constructed of visible love.
...................."Today, I am willing to be honest and open with a trusted person.
ROSIE>>>>>>>>the key word is *trusted* person.....oh in my "BR" days, (b4 recovery) i would not trust the good ones, yet tell the mail man my life story, i was so screwed up as to *trust* now i have a good perspective of it thanks to the program.....when someone EARNS my trust, i am willing to be open!!!!! thanks, rick, hugs/ rosie
