One of the members on the Al-Anon board shared this message there and I suggested that she share it here...she wasn't able to get on the board here so asked for my support...Here it is.
Jerry F
My son's friend decided (while under the influence) that his addiction was too much to handle. While in the depths of his drunken state of mind felt that by taking a gun to his own head he could end the pain of his demons the ones that haunted him daily.
Oddly, strangly, curiously the face book page that had only days before been his, lit up with messages from those who knew him. Comments ranging from "Way to find a permanate solution to a temporary problem." Words like ..."The ultimate show of selfishness." to you will forever be missed.
He leaves behind him parents who loved him siblings who will forever miss him. Friends who will always wonder if they could have made a difference.
Saddness befalls the universe when a life is cut short ..when the disease wins..when friends and family are left asking..how could it have been avoided.
This message comes with no judgement, no admonishment merely pain, saddness and hurt knowing it could have been any of our loved ones and has been.
Tonight friends and family stand in shock and sorrow. Although he had his disease, depression and fought mental illness a lifetime..many will forever feel as if they have been amputated by covert actions.
Such a tragic waste.
Such a massive loss.
A young man who was beyond talented, gifted, intelligent and artistic never realized his full potential.
Thanks for that share, Jerry. How often the most important things are taken for granted. I was taught very early in sobriety, to go home and look at my sleeping children before I go to bed. I make it my business to check on their business. In this stressful world of materialism, it's easy to forget. I thank God for reminders like this. Tragic. I pray to God for strength for that family.
Jerry thanks for carrying that message here.I also am an active member of Nar-Anon,as my son is a now a recovering Heroin Addict(just celebrated 1st year in August after 7 long years from age 17 unti 24)I hear many stories like this and share pain and heartache with many parents and friends of those who suffer from addiction.We have a primary purpose of being of maximum service to God and others but also of remaining free of active addiction and carrying the message of hope and our promise of freedom. My heart cries as I am truly blessed knowing my son taken to INTENSIVE care dying from anaphylactic shock from bad cut in his fix)and remaining for a week)made it through his 3rd major overdose,Reminding me of my 1st alcohol poisoining at 12 years old,placed in an ice cube tube,foaming from the mouth and family doctor brought in,1959) and out of school for a week.,the downbound train was just beginning for me......WE are messengers and if our ESH can help even 1 other, we are part of our service to God and others..I can only feel so much gratitude to my God for his grace and mercy not only in my own life but in those of my loved ones and others in my daily contact.I feel I have travelled thru so many universes in my short 64 years of life and know that God's plan for me is to be all God intended me to be ,however God leaves the details up to me..In deep reflection...
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
