The decision that I made in step 3. Sometimes I forget about that decision, but God does not. He engineers circumstances & situations so that I come back to that decision. All I have to do is submit again, but my stubborn will does not. What we call bad things happening to us is just God with a gentle reminder. Only a uncaring God will allow us to continue as we are.
What is step 3 again? "Made a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God.." Remember the step 3 prayer- "God I offer my self to thee, to build...."