my day got increasingly interesting and I had to bring out big program tools. I decided to go do some back yard tweaking which included cutting down part of a very unrulely hedge. This was going to be a bit earthshaking for me as that hedge separates me from a back neighbor who I think needs a sit down with an HP. A while back she claimed dear ownership of all the mock orange bushies and when I attempted to trim them back came across my property line, finger in the face and snarling and all. Rather than turn my serenity over to her I backed away from the opportunity and decided to call a surveyor who posted my back property line and after which she promptly pulled the stakes and trashed them. I've been in response rather than react for a long while so I turned that over and left it for another day which was today. There were differences and not in my favor. She still remembers her routine and launched into it. I on the other hand took a not to be abused position verbal and body language reminded her of the stake pulling incident, invited her to pay for the next measurement and told her the hedge was in my yard and I was ridding myself of a portion of it. I asked her to just leave and go away and WOW surprisingly she went...noisey but went. Then some neighbor of hers, another female came onto my property with her mouth in gear and her brain at home and decided that she was just to empowered to leave my property when I asked...1, 2, 3, 4 times. I am not a "back up" person but called 911 for officers. In the meantime my cell phone rings and there is a gal on it asking about my property and I think she is from the dispatchers officers office; then find out she is from the bank who is trying to take my property because we have fallen victim to the financial meltdown. Hmmm I get it straighened out and tell her "you now know you called at a bad time (always) and that something else is going on and I'm waiting for the police on the very property the bank is trying to steal..."Call me back in an hour and a half" never happen(ed). Cops show up and I get that old "I've always had problems with you guys" thoughts but my body didn't act it out and they questioned and jotted and walked around and stuff (3 of them) and one of them (always the largest 300+ guy) suggests that maybe I should call another surveyor and then them to witness and it would settle it. Can you ever settle crazy? I tell them they should have come when I was on the phone to the bank and I don't have the bucks. Why do they always know to ask the one person who might cave in to the suggestion...not this time, no way no how I'm letting it go again!! HP brought a wheelbarrow. By this time my head is trying to connect the dots back to when I was pouring out the beer. Was HP doing an attitude test? Hmmmmm and then the dogs start going off again and I'm curious as to what next? It's family now...grandson...needing to talk and listen. He's a great young man...go spirit and can't figure out why the family has so much trouble and all go off when he admits to going of and having one drink. Ahhhhh now I can put the entire picture together. "C, remember a few years back, that night in the kitchen when Grampa "told a bit of his story"?" He nods and remembers more from the past that he has heard from others. "Ok C, both sides of your family for generations past has always had weird and crazy reactions to the word or the chemical alcohol." We talk alot more...gave away some of what I learned including the 1st step, shared a hug with him and let him go. He's gone, they're gone, she's gone and Its me HP and MIP. Whole thing didn't take more than an hour and a half.
I poured 'em out and out come is much more acceptable. Thanks for letting me share.
Sorry to hear about your troubles. I hope tomorrow is a much brighter day. I'll certainly be thinking of you and will pray for a miracle on your behalf.
The world has similar problems my friend. You're both caught up in a whirlwind of strange occurrences that have tested the faith and sobriety of many. I hope there is a brighter horizen waiting for both of you.
You did the right thing and can now live to tell about it. Your experiences can help the next person who still thinks alcohol is a cure-all for everything. This experience can definitely be the wake-up call that others so desperately need, especially the newcomer. Call it, an earth shattering reminder that alcohol is never a solution, period. I hope and pray that it will, for today.
The tides are turning, my friend, just wait and see. I hope your epiphany will become the foundational footing that can turn the tide in your favor for many years to come.
~God bless~
-- Edited by Mr_David on Wednesday 24th of August 2011 02:27:38 AM
-- Edited by Mr_David on Thursday 25th of August 2011 01:43:54 AM
Again thank you Jerry...if nothing else your chaos helps me. I see in your post how being sober in times of trial help. Even tho it makes you crazy, you can at least THINK! I can choose to let the program fly out the window or use it. If I was in the madness there would be no choices for me!!! Sorry about the hard times and hope you have a better day. One more thing. When I choose not to react to people like that I have a blast thinking of what I would have done in the past and make up some great entertaining thoughts of what I would have liked to do!!!!
Blessings of the day Jerry,thank you for a walk through "living in the spiritual principles".Definitely takes perserverance,tolerance and most of all strength from the God of our understanding.I have this vivid painting of the "finger in your face' and man thats definitely a testing ground for this juicer(once was that is!)I pray things work for you financially but I know you will be okay because you are definitely in touch with the "Master Banker" AND Serenity Giver.We teach others how to treat us and when we "kill them with kindness(or something similar)they usually scurry away with no way to respond..We are powerless when 'ANY DRIVING FORCE" IN OUR LIVES IS BEYOND OUR CONTROL OR OUT OF CONTROL.Like you said we do not need to allow anyone to "steal our joy!!We work our hardest to approach situations in a loving and caring manner and man is that "a piece of work!!God bless you my friend,I will pray and (know in my heart)you will get that peace that surpasses all understanding.Man ,I am full of "that need to be right thing,especially when I am,,much surrender needed here for me.In support and prayer
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