Its been a while since my last post, and all is doing well. I'm still getting out to a few meetings, and been doing a big book study with my sponser and a couple of great ladys. I've just recently celebrated 8 years in AA. And I'm sooooo greatful to find a new existing way to live life this way.
Kids are well, Daughter has been away at work since the end of June at camp as a camp coucillor and getting ready to get her settled for college the first week of September. I'm extremely proud at this point for her, she phoned me the night I celebrated my 8 years.
Told me how she was proud of me, and yes she shared that shes got a best friend but considered me her best friend, also felt comfortable coming to me with anything. Brought tears to my eyes, for this I'm greatfull to have this beautiful relationship with my daughter. Yes its been rough the last 2 years but my children and I got through it.
My son is doing ok, he's still likes to drink and isn't ready to make changes yet, he moved back out on his own recently, do to events that took place that I could not allow to continue. The other week, to make a long story short, he managed to put himself into a situation and figured mom would take him back in.
Now this was extremely hard for me, my children mean the world to me but anyways I explained to my son, that he is now 22 yrs old, I am getting tired of having the conversations with him, he should have it figured out you got urself into the situation now its time to figure it out. That I'm living by myself, I love you but its time to grow up and take responsibility for ur actions. I am done my job raising children and not living with anyone for a long while.
My daughter is taking a big step and going to college now and he needs to take controll of his life, I will still be here as his mother (parent) but now its time to cut the apron strings. It was hard, but took alot for me to get through this and to let him know how I felt. I explained to that a few weeks ago he came up, we spent the evening having supper and watch movies there was NO ALCOHOL involved this nice and I enjoyed it just as he did. I explained to him that I wish we had more quality time like that. In the end he now knows where I stand and respects that I hope, and is making decisions for himself. I have to stand my ground and follow through with my decisions and choices which are sometimes good and bad. But this feels right and leaving it in Gods hands now.
Glad to see newcomers, keep coming back and stick with the ppl that best suit you.
Wonderful to see ya Tina and thanks for continued message of hope,Children and co-dependant issues are also mind boggling,I can truly iDENTIFY ,MY 25 YEAR OLD(WHO WE HAD TO PUT ON THE STREET IN THE PRIME OF HIS HEROIN ADDICTION) IS NOW COMING UP TO A YEAR FREE OF ACTIVE DRUG USE after 7 extremely trying years......We learn that we must let go ,that we are powerless and enabling only makes things way worse..Good to see you ,continue carrying the message of hope and keep coming back here when you can,we need you!!!Have a blessed and productive day!!
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For that, its an ongoing battle but its how/what we do with our day that makes it productive. It does feel good to know that one is needed, I appreciate the fact that this board is here.
And grateful for all of you on this board and yes that is why I keep coming back.
Thanks...Tina for the update. I hope your son can finally forge his path towards lasting sobriety, just like you did. I also hope your daughters year at college goes well. Something, to be proud of that's for sure. We wish you many more happy yet sober memories -ODAAT.
~God bless~
-- Edited by Mr_David on Wednesday 10th of August 2011 02:04:42 AM
Thanks for your Hello, Tina :) & Congrats on your 8years. It sounds like you're working hard & enjoying your sobriety. I know it can be so hard at times but all your efforts are paying off & you're teaching your children with your beautiful example. My heart felt your tears for your daughter & I felt your courage with your son. Thank you for sharing. Come back again soon ;) Godbless you, Sister. Your fellowship friend in Liverpool, Danielle x
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i am new here although i have been a long while sober.i lost my son to the illness in 2004 and my youngestwas murered in 2009.my daughter marriage is going through difficulties and she has been having a couple of drinks of wine.she says when she is drinking it slowely she is saying "iam drinking this because i enjoy it and not because i need it" gosh i told that is a warning sign!
tough love is hard.i wont have drink or a drunk person in my house and put my 3 sons out to save my sobriety....life is so hard but through it all i dont drink...for thissecond
I'm extremely proud at this point for her, she phoned me the night I celebrated my 8 years.
gosh i told that is a warning sign!