I wish I had some answers for you, as it relates to your alcoholism. I too am an alcoholic (in recovery) and I know from experience how perplexing this disease really is. It doesn't matter who's at fault here, but how we proceed from this point on. There is a solution, Notmyfault and "AA", this forum and the recovery community at large can provide you with one. You've taken the first step towards recovery by asking for help and that's where we come in.
Consulting with a doctor who specializes in addiction disorders would be a good first step. Detoxing isn't easy, so take precautionary measures to insure your safety. Follow up work with an addiction counselor who can prescribe a good course of action would be beneficial as well. "AA" has been my lifeline and can help you with the ongoing struggles you may face, as they guide you through the process of sobering up -one day at a time.
You have done nothing wrong, so be kind to yourself and I suggest you follow up on some of those earlier suggestions of mine. Remember...we have a disease with no known cure, just a daily reprieve contingent upon our spiritual conditioning
Please...take the necessary steps to ensure safe passage to the rewarding yet sober life that is waiting for all of us, here and now. We will pray for your well being and look forward to hearing from you in the future- one day at a time.
~God bless~
-- Edited by Mr_David on Monday 13th of June 2011 12:40:48 AM
Good Morning Notmyfault - I love that user name :).
Without, for now, getting into the whole story, I was in my normal state of drunk when I was lead to the phone book and to our A.A. Intergroup Office phone number. The man on the phone, as I understand it today, couldn't do too much for me, except.... to ask me if I was serious about not wanting to take another drink. I was. He then ask me if I could not drink any more until after an A.A. Meeting that started at 7:30 that night. The drink that was in my hand went down the drain and I have not found it necessary to take another drink or use any other mind, mood altering substance since. I had become a 24/7 drinker and I know this could not have happen without the Program of Alcoholics Anonymous. These women and men helped me, One Day at A Time, to not take a drink. And they loved me until I could start loving myself.
My friend, the words I share with you are from my heart and my experience. Similar experiences have happened and are happening everyday.
What a miracle it is, still today, for me to not have to take a drink. Notmyfault this can happen for you too.
Thank you for posting. So glad you're here!
-- Edited by Jane05 on Monday 13th of June 2011 05:36:25 AM
-- Edited by Jane05 on Monday 13th of June 2011 05:45:07 AM
You say you are trying to help your husband, but I can tell you from experiance that we can help no one until we help ourselves. For me time time I spent trying to help others was just my way of not having to take a good hard look at myself. Other people were easier to fix. You need to take step one 100% get to meetings and get your life straight first then helping others comes easier. Remember we cant' give away what we don't have.
-- Edited by Bob K on Monday 13th of June 2011 05:54:48 AM
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Tell me and I'll forget. Teach me and I'll remember. Involve me and I'll learn.
I am an alcoholic named Mike. I say I am alcoholic first because if I don't remember what I am ,who I am may not matter...We have a solution, c'mon in from the storm,work on "you" and find a new way to live...We always suggest making a meeting,share if you can,listen for a sponsor and get into the solution,our steps,worked with a sponsor and applied in your life...Hope to hear more from ya,especially how your first meeting went :) :)
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Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
Definitely get yourself straightened out before trying to help him. How much are you drinking? If it's more than a half pint of hard liquor (or the equivalent) per day, you may need medical detox. Talk to your doctor.
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This was my exact story. It got bad enough for me that I had to split from the ex and start meetings myself. He went to the ER a few times due to his drinking. We were living such a chaotic and dismal life. I made a personal choice to have recovery in my life. I could only save myself and had wasted so many years trying to save him. Now I have a much better life thanks to AA. The ex has a new addict significant other to enable him and vice versa but I am off that crazy train. I get to have the gift of sobriety. I get to have all the things in life that an ordinary person could possibly want and I never thought just getting sober would be the start of it all.
Just do the next right thing for you. That is all you can do. To thine own self be true.
-- Edited by pinkchip on Monday 13th of June 2011 10:14:12 PM
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Keep coming back. It works if you work it. So work it. You're worth it!
